So unhappy

I really want to leave my partner we have a 15 month old together and I just don’t love him anymore I hate him sometimes and he has changed so much and is just horrible to me and doesn’t help me. But I also can’t afford to live alone and don’t want to co parent or ever be away from my baby because he is my world and I hate being away from him 😢 I feel like I’m trapped and have to remain unhappy for the rest of my life now 😔 Don’t really know why I’m posting just wondering if anyone else feels the same?

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Don't know how it feels and am sorry you feel like this but honestly maybe change is what you need and I've heard a few say co parenting is better than a relationship. If your happy baby's happy and when he's not with take some well needed you time 💖

My ex and i are much better friends then partners ,we coparent our almost adult kids now but they were in grade 8 and 6 when we split. But bow we are both remarried and have kids with our new spouses and my now husband is friends with him and im friends with his wife we all hang out and go camping together people think we are crazy but it works and its great for all the kids to see and be around

I feel like I could’ve written this myself. Please message me if you want to talk as I’m in the same situation xx

All relationships suffer when a baby comes. Adjusting to not being each others priority, to being responsible for a tiny human being can be extremely difficult for both parents and both of you will have changed massively. The lack of sleep builds over time and sleep deprivation alone can make the nicest person in the world become short fused and mean. This all leads to more bickering and arguments over the smallest insignificant thing. If your relationship was happy, stable and you loved your partner before baby then there's no reason to think you can't get back to that with time and effort. What I would recommend is trying to find some time to be together just the 2 of you. Is there anyone who could watch your lo for and hour or so while you just go for walk together, get a coffee or just nap together. Look into couples therapy. However if your relationship was not happy and stable before lo then you need to find a way to end the relationship as a baby will not fix an already broken relationship.

I'm so sorry for anyone going through this. It's so stressful having to go through this and it takes a toll on you mentally, emotionally, physically. And the hardest part is still trying to be happy for your baby. I would say take a one day at a time. Aldo know that you're not trapped. No one is ever trapped. There is help out there. Have you seeked professional advice? Perhaps from a doctor, counselor or social worker?

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢