Nice gesture but…

Does your significant other do something nice for you and like you appreciate that they tried to help out but it’s not how you wanted so it leaves you feeling kinda frustrated and a bit upset? For example we needed to get an extension cord set up in our one year olds room for his monitor, sound machine, etc since the only outlet was on the wrong side of the room. And he did it all, mounted it, pinned it up, etc so baby couldn’t mess with it but also mounted it to the middle of the wall where it’s not discreet at all and totally ruins the vibe of the room. Like thank you for meeting a need but also I worked really hard on setting up his room and it’s all themed and pretty and it’s frustrating.

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I’d probably just try to Cover it up somehow, but usually I tell him exactly where I want it to avoid that. I’m picky and like to get ahead of things, he can’t read your mind and men don’t usually decorate the home so they just do the most effective thing. Communication goes a long way.

We both do do construction in one manner or another. If I really don’t feel like doing it myself, I will ask him to do it and give him good directions. One shouldn’t be frustrated when other don’t read our minds. If you don’t like the job he’s doing, do it yourself.

For those of you saying diy or tell him beforehand, the plan was to do it Saturday together but he did it himself beforehand bc he wanted to be helpful. Like I get the intention and I appreciate it it’s just frustrating when I had already planned it differently.

Good intentions gone wrong, that’s cute but frustrating I wouldn’t even know how to bring it up

I’d give it a week then say, “You know, you did a nice job setting up the extension cord but after this week I’m thinking we should mount the monitor differently.” It allows him some time to feel accomplished and not criticized right out of the gate.

@Stephanie love this tbh

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