What’s the difference between a didlo and a perineal massage wand?

Hey ladies sorry to be so xrated but I’m just wondering what’s the difference between using a dildo and a perineal massage wand ? And have anyone ever tried the perineal wand before ? Never used it but just curious to how to use it and if it actually helps before birth ?

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I was just thinking the same last night while looking for perineal massage wands 😅 I wasn't expecting a bunch of vibrators and dildos to show in the Amazon search too lol
I was able to have my husband help for my last pregnancy and didn't tear! So definitely want to do it again. Due to his work schedule this time I figured I would try the wand since I can't reach. Never used a wand before either, but hopefully it will help me reach. I'm getting the mom Frida one.

oh ok so do you use it like a didlo ? 🫣 sorry to ask this personal question . Never used one before 😆

lol no worries. No, you don't use it like a dildo. You tube has a lot of great how to videos, but here's a couple good ones.

https://youtu.be/0d4OwSbkvRI?si=620S0dt1558gTyV9

https://youtu.be/ceOAGdC5njk?si=Ww0ekcPor3Z5CiGi

In these videos they show how to do it with fingers, but many people can't reach well at this point, or don't have someone else to help, so that's what the wands are for.

oooh ok thank you so much will watch those videos and give it a try 😊❤️

pelvic PT here, no, the dildo will be too large. You want to use something smaller like your thumbs or a wand because you’re really only working with the bottom half of the circle. Always use a lubricant or coconut oil when you do it.

I would imagine a dildo more like sex and a perineal massage is not 😂

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