What to do if it happens in the future?

So I took my 9 month old to my local play centre today. In the 0-3 area. We put him on the foamy bit so he can lean how to walk. Just behind the foam bit there’s the ball pit… There was 2 grown adults throwing balls at eachother. (Lady was just sat outside the ball pit) anyway as they were throwing the balls one nearly hit my baby boys head. Don’t get me wrong the lady did apologise but they carried on at it. I couldn’t help but think how mad I would have been if a ball did hit him but yet too anxious to say anything…

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I’d just report it to the play centre management

Like a ball pit ball? They're not going to actually hurt your baby at all so I wouldn't worry about this. You could say something like 'careful, please!' if you need to say anything at all. Sounds like they apologised though!

I think it would’ve been totally okay to ask them to please stop throwing since it’s so close to the 0-3 area. You have every right to protect your kid, especially in an area that is specifically for kids!

depending on the force they can be quite painful…

yes it’s a ball pit ball. They were throwing them quite forcefully. Even the lady said at one point “ow that hurt” and yes she apologised but obviously wasn’t too bothered as she carried on

yes I agree! The lady did say at one point “ow that hurt” obviously not nice to see your baby being hit at all though 🤷

no exactly!

😂😂

I would have said something to them before I put my kid in. “This is area is for babies” or “please do not throw the balls when a kid is in here”. I understand feeling anxious about these things.

It doesn't matter whether it would hurt or not, it's still the principle of grown adults throwing balls that can hit a wee baby! So disrespectful, I would have been raging.

Plus you were just trying to enjoy your time with your baby, and not have to worry about that additional stress they were causing by acting like children 😠

I would talk to the play centre staff and let them handle it.

So many things wrong with this, firstly why was 2 adults playing in a baby ball pit? Secondly where was there child? Was the child being supervised? Why did they think it was acceptable to do this? So many kids could see this and think it's okay to act this way in a soft play area! And where are the staff? Not supervising play area or just not bothered this is happening?

I'd only have a problem with it if they didn't have a child with them, which I assume they didn't from your comment, or at least their child wasn't in the ball pit with them.
Me and my husband throw the balls at each other when at soft play with our toddler, he thinks it's hilarious and likes to throw them at daddy too 😂 it's kinda part of playing in a ball pit. BUT two adults just doing it and a baby just sitting next to it is not good. We would always stop if another child came in because we wouldn't want to hit them.

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