No sex drive

I’ve had a low sex drive since I was pregnant. My baby is now 15 months and I still have no drive. It could be that I’ve lost touch with my partner since we don’t have the best of relationship. We’re always arguing and he has said some degrading things to me so that could be the reason. I’m just longing to feel like a normal person again. Not just a mother because this seems to be my sole existence these days. I love my baby dearly but I just want to be happy. Can anyone relate or offer advice?

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Thanks Daisy. It’s hard really trying my best.

I feel the same!! My daughter is 15 months old and my marriage is pretty much going down the tubes since she was about 8 months old. My husband says anything and everything to hurt me . I’m going to pack up and move back with my parents soon. Possibly in the next few days. I wish I could give you some advice but all I can do is relate…you’re not alone at least! Haha…. He says I’m a shit mom everyday, I know better and refuse to let him get in my head with it. My daughter is breastfed and for whatever reason I can’t pump, so I LITERALLY have never been away from her side for more than two hours(which was only once for emergency) and I’m SO BuRNT OUt! Not only is my husband no help with her, I am forced to do everything and then get told how bad I am at it constantly. I’m leaving this house with my daughter possibly tomorrow and never coming back. I turn 30 on the 13th and I refuse to live my next 30 years miserable when I donT have to be.

Hi! I’m exactly in the same boat. Zero sexual drive. And it’s a constant fight on this issue, no matter how much I explain to him that I am breastfeeding that influences that I am tired, I am with our baby ALL THE TIME, so all my attention and energy goes to her, He just don’t understand.. I'm going to start exercising hoping that will increase my libido and my self esteem.

just out of curiosity how many time do you breastfeed in a day?

tbh as many times as she wants it. Which usually during the day she treats my boobs like sippy cups and takes a few sips and then is back off to the races! Hahaha her long feeds happen to get her down for a nap/bedtime and when she wakes up from her nap and wakes up in the morning. She is so hard to get to drink anything else! Sweet tea is the only thing she will actually drink more than a sip or two of. It’s soooo frustrating! I wanted to quit breastfeeding when she turned one but now I see no hope in sight!!!

oh sorry to hear what you’re going through Emily, my heart breaks for you. It’s sad that we have to go through so much! At least you have your mother still, I’ve lost both my parents and have no one to turn to for support. I’m in the trenches!

You can hmu anytime if you just need to vent or whatever! I’m sorry you don’t have anyone around for support. This is the shit they don’t tell you about in any parenting class that’s for sure

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Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

Answer only if it applies to you.

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️

Looking for connection!

31, to be 32 this year. Baby boy due in June. FTM. Looking for someone to relate to, let’s support each other! I could use a good friend, I’m a great one myself! Bluntly honest, will always stand by you whether we agree or not! Located around southwestern Ontario but open to long distance :)