Anyone else’s kids have no friends? I feel awful

My kiddos birthday is tomorrow and I’m feeling so guilty. I’ve tried to make her so many friends. Tried to meet other moms. Made friends in our building. Send invited. The works. She’s had impromptu play dates and mini holidays celebrations w them. But no responses about her birthday tomorrow. I’m nervous no one will show up. While I know she’s gonna have a great day- i am filling the day with activities and visits from family/friends of mine she loves to death. Starting the day with a kids park in hopes she can meet some kids to play w.. just feeling so bad. Am I ruining her childhood? She starts school in the fall so I know it might be easier. Just still feeling so bad. 😭

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Sending hugs momma!! If only we were closer!!

Ohh darling don’t feel bad, you’re doing all you can as a mom and giving ur best for her to meet/have friends!! That is so nice of you, I know it might be sad if no one shows up, but at the ent of the day she’ll have u and that’s the most important. Would u not consider doing something different instead of a party if you really believe kids aren’t going to go? I mean like a day date both of you where u could take her somewhere nice that she likes, go and have a nice meal, go to the cinema, to the saloon and get your nails done or anything else she likes for example? Make her feel like it’s HER special day and I’m sure she’ll love it! 🤍

I’m definitely planning a bunch of things to do for quality time and enjoy this beautiful weather right now, just feeling like I’m not enough 🥹

thank you so much 💞

finger crossed haha 😩

thank you love 🫶🏻

Happy birthday little one

You’re doing a great job keeping her busy with fun activities. School is just around the corner for her, making a big deal because she doesn’t have friends. She’s way too young to worry about it or you stressing about it when she’s not even in school. Enjoy her last days of being a lil baby girl she’s going to grow on you so fast. Happy birthday to your beautiful baby girl. God bless your family 🥰

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.