Co-sleeping with newborn

My only 6 days old baby won’t sleep in his crib (which has a nest) at night. He sleeps in it during the day but cries instantly once I put him in it at night and calms down when in our bed. I wanted to make him sleep in the crib from the beginning but I already gave up as Im so tired and want to get some sleep myself. Any thoughts on this? ❤️

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It’s completely normal, all he has been used to is you for the last 9 months so he feels safe when next to you/on you. My baby was like this for the first few weeks and gradually at night he started to sleep in there and now he sleeps in his next to me the whole night. 8.30pm-8.30am wakes for 1feed around 3am he is 11wks.
Have you tried putting a piece of clothing in the crib during times where he’s not in there so then when he does go in it smells of you?
Ultimately you have to do what is right for you and if that’s cosleeping then that’s what it will be 🩵 don’t be hard on yourself 🩵

We did the same, bought him into the bed safely and now at 5 weeks he does some stretches in the bassinet anf others in the bed with us c

Do you have a Moses basket you can use? Our baby struggled with her cot at first, preferring the Moses, I think because it was narrower. As time went on and she got bigger she transferred to her next to me cot. I used to run a muslin cloth on my bare chest and use that as a blanket (it was warm at the time). Also I’d take out her mattress and lie on it for a bit.

If you do co-sleep take a look at Lullaby Trust for safe ways to do so:

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

You mention having a nest. Be really careful with those as baby can turn their head into them and not know to turn away. If you have to use maybe don’t at night and someone keep an eye on baby during the day (hopefully you’ll be napping whilst baby is napping).

I originally didn't want to co-sleep but I'm now 8 months into it and its the best decision I've ever made. It's much easier to BF at night and both me and baby get much more sleep. Look up the safe 7 rules of co-sleeping and try it out for a few nights to see if it's the right decision for you.

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