Tantrums & Stubbornness

Hi moms, my son is 15 months old. Whenever we try to discipline him if he does something wrong, he will scream on top of his lungs non stop, or throw himself on the floor and hit the floor, or he will come to hit me. I try using gentle words and sometimes even stern strict looks but nothing seems to work. I am also worries that he may hit other kids at daycare. How do I discipline him?

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Honestly I haven't found discipline helpful with my little guy since he can't associate the discipline with what he did wrong. I start with a stern NO which he ignores and laughs at most of the time. I have to show him what I am saying no to and what he can do instead. Eventually after repeatedly showing him what feels like 1,000 times he gets it. Does he scream at me in frustration through the process oh yea! But he is learning and it's really cool to see when the behavior changes. This week we have started hitting the cat with the plastic golf club set grandma and grandpa got him for Easter 🤦‍♀️ I am on day 7 of No don't hit the cat, you can hit the ball and the floor and that's fine but we don't hit the cat. Give him another chance and he usually hits the floor or ball once before testing me and hitting the cat. Then I show him again. And if he hits the cat after being shown twice the toy goes away. I have only left out one of the 4 golf clubs today which he has played with and not yet hit the cat 🤞🤞🤞

@Ashlee thank you Ashlee... I'm going to try the same...hopefully it works with my son 😭😭

You've got this! They are certainly masters of testing us and pushing us to our limits! If we show them the correct behaviour, especially at this age, that's really the only way they learn in my opinion. Once they are old enough to understand what is right and wrong and listen to us telling them not to do something for sure there needs to be consequences.

@Ashlee I feel like a failure.. there are days when i am looking my patience...... there are days I am scared of his anger which leads to biting , hiting or pulling my hair... few days back he wasn't ready to sleep so he picked my phone and flinged it on my face... I had a bruised bleeding lip.. I also feel my son thinks this is fun. Whenever my husband or I try to correct it or raise our voices or be stern with him, he starts laughing and doing things more... I feel soo helpless...

If he's having a laugh reaction when doing the behaviour I'd recommend not trying to correct it in the moment. Sometimes children will do things because the reaction, they're all about cause and effect at this age. React as little as possible and start doing something else to get him engaged. Talk about hitting and stuff at other moments. Using books like hands are not for hitting. This is all developmentally appropriate and don't worry about childcare, we have these situations all the time. You're doing great.

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