postpartum sex

sooo i’ve just had sex for the first time since giving birth & it almost feels like….nothing. like it’s not satisfying but it’s also not UNsatisfying tbh and ik it’s not a skill issue on his end obviously he’s very good in bed but has anyone else dealt with this or is it just me

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It will take time!

oh man ☹️

That’s me. I’m 15 months pp and I still haven’t enjoyed or craved it. Honestly feel like I could live without it

yea i definitely could go without but damn i feel like i waited so long with all the anticipation behind the 6 week wait just for it to suck

It was that way for me but it went back to normal after 3-4 months. It takes much longer than 6 weeks for everything to go back to normal post birth. The vagina is a muscle that stretches and its probably still a little stretched out but it should "tighten up" pretty soon

I just do it for my partners benefit. My son is almost 2 and I mostly depend on self relief. Not because it’s bad I’m just not interested

It physically just doesn't feel as good for me right now (2.5 months post partum). Really hoping it's just something we need to work on and tackle as a team, though I have a pelvic floor therapy appointment next week :)

good luck with your therapy ! i too am 2 months post partum hoping it gets better with time

fingers crossed then , im only 2 months post partum so if that’s the case i’ve got over a month left till it gets better 🥲

yea i totally get that , masturbation is healthy and def a lot more enjoyable than sex for plenty of people

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻