He is the child’s father so should have role parenting just as much as you. Staying at home with the baby all day is work. I left my partner with the baby for a whole day and after that he completely understood the hard work that goes into solo parenting while he’s at work, I’d suggest booking a day with your friends - some you time and letting him take on the duties for the day. After I did that, my partner does all night feeds. When he comes home from work he takes the baby, I’ll sort out the dinner and he will 9/10 give the baby his food and then bath and put to bed. Don’t feel that you need to be parenting on your own just because he’s working, you both have a role to play in raising the child you both decided to have. Hope it all works out xx
During the day while he's at work then of course it's your job to look after baby. But once he's home everything is shared. That includes baby, chores, everything else.
You work too. Being a full time mom is WORK. Personally my bf takes two hours when he gets home on baby duty then I do bed time. Weekends he does the mid day shift while I do mornings and again bedtimes. It works well for us.
While he’s at work you’re at work when he’s home it becomes teamwork
I am sort of in this situation as well, his role is to provide for the family but also at the end of the day when he’s coming home from work everything should be equal, the feeds, the changes, the bathes, etc, it’s not overreacting if those are your feelings. being a mom is also just as tough as a father going to work.
No thats totally not overacting, It’s sad that he doesn’t want to help as it creates a lovely bond. I am very lucky that my partner is really helpful he works 11am-7pm Monday to Friday and as soon as he comes home he wants to have the time with her doing the feeds etc whilst I cook dinner. Then he will do her feeds till 2-3am (he always had gone to sleep later so it works good) then I take over for the day. But on weekends we both share it 50|50 and he’ll even stay awake longer. You shouldn’t have to ask for help. Imagine if you worked and he had your child all day I’m sure he would like a little break from a feed / nappy change and entertainment for your baby especially at that age: this is his child too not just yours because he works. Makes me sad that some men act like they give you a child then that’s it it’s your responsibility. Xx