Rude MIL

So my mother in law didn’t like that her son (he’s technically her step-son) and I ended up getting pregnant before we we even actually dating, now we’re together and married, It’s been a bit rushed. But the second time I ever met her, she pulled up a picture of my man and his Ex telling me all about how she was a good girl for him. They would’ve been married by now and had a family the right way, blah blah blah, etc. This caused a big fight between my husband and I. I told him I didn’t want to go over there anymore. Am I the asshole for not wanting to be around her? She doesn’t even respect the boundaries we have for the baby. We tell her not to kiss her face and she does it anyway. I breast feed and she tells me to go get a bottle out of the kitchen and pump because she wants to feed her. She doesn’t even ask to hold our daughter she just snatches her up. She wanted me to come over the day we got out of the hospital and when I said no she guilt tripped me into it. So I went I had my mom drive me over. It’s an hour drive. My husband was out of the state when she was born. And I had a bad PP hemorrhage. To the point I almost died. I got told not to drive for 6-12 weeks. I just feel utterly disrespected by her but I try to deal with it for him because his dad and siblings aren’t like this to me. It’s just her.