Ummm toddler is humping???!!! Can I get advice!!!!

Seasoned mamas!!! What the hell!!?!? 😱😱😱 how come no one says anything about the humping things and or mama?!?! It's not all the time and I've been told it's normal by the doctor just make sure to keep an eye for rash or anything on my kids privates but is this gender specific or all toddlers. I need help cause I am soooo weirded out by it and just ignore it. Anyone have tips to redirect it?? Or something to keep my child from doing it??? I don't want to "shame" or confuse my child as it's a bad thing. But like hey don't do that to or at this time??? Idk I don't want my child to grow up like me where I didn't understand changes and as a woman your femininity???? Idk this is just like a hard subject to describe... Anyways any advice???

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My nephew does it and has since before the age of 3, and he’s just turned 4. I just think it’s one of those things they discover about themselves, and all they know is that it feels good. I think my nephew does it to soothe himself almost. We’ve been told it’s normal by his GP

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@Kayleigh is there any tips about like redirecting it?? Like I'm sorry but it's not something that grandma and Grandpa want to see and neither do cousins, aunts and uncles. My child doesn't do it for too long or often but it does make everyone feel at a loss for words and give me a face of "uhhhh are you gonna say something?" And I don't want to do what my family does with their children examples being (ewww that's gross, don't do that, thats bad, that's nasty, stop your being nasty, that's disgusting)

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My daughter does when she's sleepy. She's done it for years....she almost 6 now. Doctor said it's normal.

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You can teach them that it’s a private thing to do on their own in their bedroom

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I think you need to speak to everyone else about it being normal and toddler is still young and will grow out of it.

If they are reacting that way I think they are the weird ones, it’s not like your toddler is doing it and thinking sexually. If this was a actual kid then okay step in and explain it’s for the bedroom only but a toddler doesn’t understand what humping means

You can redirect by getting things his interested in and play stuff like that but you can’t expect it to just stop and no one else can.

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