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I told my baby daddy quit the booga suga or we are done done. Wow he actually decided to go stay with a friend for free rent and said If i unconditionally loved him I'd be more understanding and patient and not let it get in between us. He says I'm more impatient , mean and short and snippy and smartass and less affectionate when he's high. Which I am it's definitely a faaaaatttttt turn off...He is responsible and a good dad and partner it's my personal choice not to and his personal choice to do it. My question is it better and what are the pros and cons of him getting his belongings out the house when I am here or when I am gone? Is it worth keeping track of what he takes and watching him pack up . He just took a quick bag so I know he will be back for his stuff( TV , books, dressers , belongings ECT.) we lived together for 3 years lol his bed is in OUR room am I going to come home one day with no bed and an empty room after work??? Ugh also. What about the kids he watches them on the weekends while I work and I'm not comfortable now I'm worried he will either take them while I'm at work or something I'm just gonna call in this weekend. Anyone else?
I was an ex addict (one year sober) and my BD is an alcoholic and an addict to the same substance. When he decided to lash out at me I cut all contact and decided it’s not safe for him to be around our baby. Kids will get their hands into anything and I refuse to have it anywhere near me or my baby so I completely understand this on a super personal level. Personally I’d keep your kid(s) out of his household if you can for their safety unless he gets sober. But you’re absolutely right no one can get sober unless they themselves want to. Maybe not seeing his kids will be his motivation 🤷🏼♀️