Please help 😩

So me and my baby dad aren’t together, I’m 25 weeks pregnant and he’s already gotten a new girlfriend. We’ve been on no contact for a while because I needed some space as he was doing drugs so I just didn’t want my baby boy growing up with that. He said he’d change however still does it on occasion so he had lied. I’ve done everything all alone and by myself and it’s getting to the point now where I’m struggling with money too as I’m not at work due to me having HG so sickness is still so unbearable. I’m not really sure how to go about it, he wants to be involved and I want him to be but I feel so out of place now he’s gotten a new girlfriend even before I’ve given birth. I need financial help but I don’t know how to ask him without sounding like I’m a bad mother because I can’t afford as much as I want to. I don’t how his girlfriend feels about the whole situation either because me and baby dad haven’t spoken in months. I just need some advice on what to say, I’m 19 years old and I cannot do it all alone I’m struggling so much.

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You can get him on Child support

@Crystal even during my pregnancy? Or is that afterwards x

Baby girl, I’m sending you hugs and love. And I really do hope everything works out in the end.. drugs is something serious so I personally just as she said would be doing child support as well as custody paperwork all within one you don’t want him having that around you or the baby and CPS is involved. I would also be looking at Facebook marketplace for any free or gently used items.. I wish you were in Las Vegas. I would definitely have a little bit more support to give you hugs.

Speak to him and see if you can get an informal plan in place. Explain you need to start buying things for baby and test it out

All I can say is moving forward don’t repeat situation. You are so young. Ask for help, keep it cordial and file for child support without saying a word.

Hun message me cause girl I understand, I've split with my partner for the same reasons im 13 weeks pregnant and I feel the same, I've already been told he dosent want to pay child support and won't help me pay for things as he's gotta get his house ready

Me and my BD have a lot of the same issues. I haven’t talked to him in two months we’re both blocked on each others phones and socials. Hes blocked my mother and I blocked his entire family. He threatened to try to come after me if I went for child support saying he’d use my past addiction against me to take my child (I’m a year sober and he’s only made it a month or two at a time staying sober) hes also an angry alcoholic. I luckily get some support in my family as far as a roof over my head but not much else. Also my friends have seen him on dating apps already even though it’s only been two months and he left me and I’m pregnant with his second baby.

he is just as responsible for the baby no matter who he dates or come into his life put him on child support so you do not have to ask

Hi I’m also 19 so ik it’s hard being a young mom at this age. You can apply for programs like WIC for food and formula for yourself and your baby when he/she is born. And there’s also social workers that can help you with your financial situation and provide you resources that you need. Check your local communities too because depending on what state you’re in, there’s non profit organizations that can help you ( like diaper banks for free diapers.) You can get free baby stuff from Facebook marketplace and hand me downs. I’m also not working because it’s been hard working during my pregnancy and I quit. But my bd pays child support and I’m 27 wks pregnant. You can talk to him about child support and suggest monthly pay. I get paid around 250-300 per month. If he doesn’t want to pay child support you can take legal matters.

sorry to ask but does the new girlfriend know that ur pregnant as my ex did that got into a new relationship before i was having my oldest and the girl didnt even know that i was pregnant

@Emma I actually don’t know because she’s not spoken to me or anything I’ve just been blocked by her so I’m actually unaware if she knows or not x

ahh ok and yeah do u not have anybody whos close to u to help a litte as the lady to comment before i agree do not reply on him for anything as u soon regret it i did x

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