Unsupportive husband 10 days post c-section

My husband has stopped supporting me and said mean things to make me upset. He doesn't care about my mental health and ignored me when I cried after he being mean to me and said brutal things to make me cry. He talks to me like a dirt and treated me like I am not a mum to our son. He was being supportive in the last 10 days but now he thinks he has done everything for me, like cook, clean, passing baby and walking the dogs. But, all I do is asking him to do everything for me. He thinks feeding baby and lack of sleep isn't hard for a mum post c-section when everything else he is taking care of around the house. I am feeling so upset and unsupported. He doesn't give a sh*t when I cry because of the way he talks to me like I am nobody and rolled his eyes at me. He then said I got a serious mental health issue which I know I haven't but everytime I cry it was because the way he treats me.

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Sounds like an absolutely horrible person - ring your health visitor and get them to come round. Family to support you or hire a doula. Tell him to do one and not return - you’re better off without someone adding to your stress.

Ur better off without, sounds like the start of an abusive relationship to me! I know thst hard to hear but stats even show pregnancy and having a new born are when most abuse start! Protect yourself and your baby!! Get healtth visitor involved, they can shoe u to support groups. Tell ur family and friends thos is happening, make ur support group as big as you can because you will need it

You’ve literally just had a baby and are most likely in the midst of baby blues, he needs to do some reading around the aftermath of birth, especially a c-section! However, regardless of your circumstances if you’re crying and upset he should not be treating you that way x

Has this beena sudden change in the way he behaves? If he was previously supportive and how now started acting differently with really negative moods, he might be suffering from PPD and that could get worse if he doesn't get help. Definitely speak to your health visitor as you will need support either way. I wonder if your health visitor can have a chat with you both explaining again how your recovery should go and what his role is in all this?

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