Extreme back pain 18 months after epidural

Hi ladies 💗
I’m having such an awful time with my lower back. I had my daughter in Oct 22 and my back has never recovered.
I was advised to have an epidural as I have hyper-mobility and was warned labour would be particularly painful (my hips ended up popping out of place with every contraction!)
18 months on and my lower back is in bits. I wake up every morning in agony, having to slowly roll out of bed, and then staggering around until it eases slightly and I can stand up straight. I have to ask my daughter to stand in her cot so it’s easier for me to lift her out ☹️ I stand no chance of carrying my girl down the stairs first thing in the morning. I distract her by playing in her room for a good 20 mins before my back has eased enough to manage the stairs.
My back eases a bit through the day but certain movements like bending down and lifting my daughter from the floor/ onto something is so painful. Plus it actually hurts to touch the muscles in my lower back, it makes me wince!
I’ve had physio, tried to lose some weight and it’s just not getting any better. I’m really hoping there’s another mum out there that’s had similar experience and has an answer for how to fix/ whether it’s a medical condition or something? I just need SOMETHING!

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I've had a back injury for over 11 years now 🥴 it's what put me off getting pregnant earlier!
Have you been to the GP and discussed medication? I've been on all sorts of stuff. Antidepressants for nerve pain which were horrendous, would not recommend for the side effects, muscle relaxants which were great but made me super drowsy. Cocodamol is pretty good, heat - hot water bottle constantly down my trousers at the back, patches or cream, Bath. I've had scans etc and I have a disc bulge which traps a nerve and flares my muscles from time to time too so that's fun 🥴 it could be a good idea to ask your GP for a referral to the musco-skeletal team or whoever they are. Usually the same area the physio is under but before they give you a programme they send you for scans to check there are no underlying issues before hand that exercise could make worse.

Good luck! 😊 I know how you feel bending, carrying/lifting. I struggle everyday but just potter on wondering if and when a bad spasm etc could happen!

That’s so much help thank you!! I’ve been to my GP twice, they mentioned applying heat and having baths, and I went private for some physio but it’s done very little. One the second gp visit I was basically told to lose weight to relieve some of the pressure, which obvs was upsetting as my weight is very much depression related and I felt like I wasn’t taken seriously because I’m overweight. I recently came off my anti depressants for PPD and I can tell you they did sod all for any back pain I had 😂 I did wonder whether I need scans or something, I hadn’t considered asking for painkillers though as daft as that sounds. Thanks so much, I’m ringing the doctors on Monday anyway for an appointment and hopefully they do more than telling me to take a bath! Xxx

Yep, thats the first step!
I've also had the weight comment too, which is somewhat true for myself because I can't stop eating sugar 😅 and mental health yes.
I've figured if you ask for what you want from the doctor they usually help you out. But most the time wouldn't suggest these things themselves! Depending how long you've been suffering with this, they should think yeh we should check you out! X

I don't suffer with this but can advise from a what might be available perspective, do ask your GP if they can refer you to a pain clinic if you have one locally. They can often support you in how to deal with chronic pain and or refer you to clinical psychology to support you with the psychological impact of chronic pain. I hope you do get sorted or at least some support x

thank you that’s really helpful 💗

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