Struggling - weaning, having a routine and getting out

Hi All! I have a 9 month old now and moved onto three meals but I’m really struggling to fit that all in with also managing to get out and about. I feel after I’ve bf, fed and then given her a bottle in the morning its time for the first nap. And then when she wakes up, fitting in time to make her lunch and then fitting in a bottle too before time to sleep doesn’t leave me much time! Especially as can take almost an hour to feed her.
Any tips would be hugely welcome! Especially as spring is here would be nice to get out and about. I struggle knowing what to give her if was out

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I don’t have any tips but I’m in the exact same boat, also struggling massively to fit his meals in the daily routine. But we’re still mostly on 2 meals, breakfast and lunch , I’m scared how’s it going to be with the supper also incorporated… plus the time to cook and prepare meals and also making sure to go for at least an hour walk daily…. Hopefully we’ll both find our ways to manage with the weaning. Wishing you luck

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Batch cook things like vegetable muffins and freeze them so you can get one out of the freezer at a time. Keep lunch simple as that’s the one you are most likely to need to fit around plans. And try to feed her when you eat

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No advice here but we are in the same situation, my husband says I’m too uptight about her routine but I can’t help it 😩

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Totally understand it feels like everything is crammed In doesn’t it!
We are on 2 meals brunch and tea this is our rough routine
7.30-8 wake up
8-9 am milk 5oz
Play
11am brunch
Play and nap
2pm milk 5oz (always offered but sometimes doesn’t want any or only a small amount)
Play and nap
5pm tea
7-8ish pm milk 5oz and bed.

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I feel the same. But I found batch cooking bits and making a lunch box helps to get out for a few hours around that time of day.
So my lb wakes up for example 6am and we have bottle straight away.
About 7.30 he will have his breakfast.
8.30 sleep for an hour
Then 10.30 will have milk again
1.30 dinner
(From 9:30 I tend to make plans and take milk and dinner out with us just incase) it’s a lot to prep but it has really helped me feel better going out and taking it all as I’m prepared.
I usually don’t worry about sleep too much there as he will sleep in his pram or on me depending where we are.
About 4.30 he will have his tea as he will nap about half 3. (His tea can sometimes be 5 depending on his sleep)
Then milk at 7-7.30 depending on bedtime.

It is hard getting out now as a lot revolves around sleep but they say wake windows now at 9 months can look like 2 naps about 90 minutes each.

My lb was doing 2 naps but he’s not sleep at night anymore so we are back to 3.

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My son has 2 naps a day, wakes up at 5:30/6 has 6oz bottle, 7:00/7:30 has breakfast, first nap at 8:30 snack at 10, dinner at 12:00 + pudding, nap at 2pm snack at 3/3:30 (both naps are around 60/90min long..) tea at 4:30/5:00 + pudding , bath at 5:30 , bottle 8oz at 6:30 bed at 7:00.. up at 11:00 for his last feed 8oz til 5:30 next day… I find getting out after his first nap before dinner and then after his second nap … I often take a pack up out with us if we’re out n about with sandwiches n a yoghurt n veggie straws in it, he drinks 6oz of water through out the day too, n he’s 9months old today …

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Same, if we are too busy I just give her a bit of toast for lunch, not that she eats much anyway

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Thanks all for the tips and sharing schedules !
Hopefully it will become easier.
Good tips on batch freezing, I’ll try to do that more as well as keeping lunch simple!
If only she didn’t fling most of her food on the floor or cake herself in it!!

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