Porn

You don’t have to stop caring, he shouldn’t be treating you like that. If you’re uncomfortable with it then he should respect that mama, if he doesn’t that says more about him than it says about you. Dms are always welcome I’ve been through this a few times

Sending love <3

Personally I watched it myself and just found the humor in the inaccuracies, fallacies and poor acting but if you’re not comfortable with it I would firstly have that conversation with him. He should be able to respect your wishes and maybe even help you appreciate your body. It brought you both the greatest gift a person can receive, it deserves to be appreciated for its glorious abilities.

Honestly it might be a little left field but watch it yourself - I find the jealousy goes way down if I’m also having a good time 😂

If you’ve done your best to not care and it still hurts you, it’s not an insecurity issue. It’s a respect issue. I second on this, and I’m so sorry he’s put you in such an uncomfortable position. It’s not fair to you at all.

If it makes you feel uncomfortable it is perfectly reasonable to set a boundary and tell him he needs to stop. You don’t need to stop caring at all and your feelings are valid - your partner needs to respect that.

If that’s how it makes you feel then I’d make sure he knows that and stop it. Random but have you ever suggested watching it together?

we’ve tried, I had never watched it before we started dating so we tried together once and I just thought it was extremely weird and not anything I wanted to watch. I don’t judge other people for watching it, it’s just really not my thing.

Honestly for me and my fiancé; it took me a while to be okay with it; but I realized that after pregnancy I didn’t ever really want to have sex much, bc I felt tired a lot, and I know sexual needs r a thing, it’s just part of being human; so I ended up getting my fiancé a sex toy and told him, if that’s what will keep his sex levels/hormones in check then go for it; I would rather him masturbate to random strangers that he will never meet having fake sex, than sit and go and try to find someone else to please those needs; I would choose him watching porn than cheating on me with another person any day; and honestly I watch it myself, and have my own sex toys, bc my sex hormones aren’t always on the same schedule as his; it’s funny to watch porn sometimes and really realize how fake it is, whether the sex is, the moans and groans, it’s hilarious; but you got to do what’s best for you and your mental health; me and my fiancés situation ain’t like everyone else’s

You don’t. If you care you care and your partner should respect that. There’s nothing wrong with you not wanting your partner to watch it.

I agree with others that if you’re not comfortable with it you need to talk to him about it! Communication is so important!!!

You don’t. If he doesn’t stop leave him. It’s cheating.

Personally for my husband and I, we view porn as not okay (part of it is religious for us), so it’s something that you and him need to figure out boundaries on. I understand some people are okay with it but if you’re not then it needs to be addressed. Possibly try couples counseling?

I’ve personally never minded my partner watching porn and it’s not because I’m one of those pick-me’s. I rationalized that he can’t touch them or talk to them. It’s like safe cheating…? Idk how to word it but it’s better than him looking at girls on tinder and fucking them🤷🏽‍♀️

I get the self doubt like why does it have to be someone else, but you have to pick your battles, love. Men don’t know why they do stuff sometimes

If you’ve had this conversation (let alone multiple times) with him, he obviously doesn’t respect you enough. If he continues to cross the boundary and it’s affecting your relationship, security, mental healthy, etc., I’d be leaving him. You shouldn’t feel forced to be ok with something you’re not.

Also, there’s a lot of respectful men out there that DON’T watch porn. Lmao. Don’t settle or lower your standards because “it’s hard to find a guy that doesn’t”. That mentality is gross to me and it’s not true. 😂

I’m sorry but telling OP to “pick her battles” and “ask herself why it bothers her so much” is so misogynistic and backwards it’s not even funny. If you have a problem with your partner watching porn that is 100% valid and a more than ok boundary to have. You do not have to budge on that. If you and your partner agree it doesn’t matter then good for y’all. Do what works for you. No judgement there, it’s not my relationship I don’t care. But “choose your battles because men will be men” is so unacceptable and not true. That type of enabling is why men get away with the stuff they do. It’s about respect.

It is not impossible for men to go without sex or porn. My husband is literally living breathing proof of that. I had an extremely hard post partum and didn’t even want him touching me until almost 4 month PP. That’s also after maybe a handful of sex during my pregnancy because I was so sick the entire time. Never ONCE did he make me feel guilty or responsible for his “need to get off.” There was no porn, no wavering in our connection, no resentment. He said he didn’t even crave it because he knew I wasn’t into it. We’re completely back to normal now so don’t worry, your libido will come back! Nothing is wrong with you because you aren’t wanting it right now. Idk who came up with the 6 week PP rule but it was a big HELLLL NO for me. Your partner needs to respect you. Just because 90% of the worlds men are crap and used doing whatever they want (and getting away with it because women are too afraid to demand respect) doesn’t mean you have to lie down and take it.

I’m not naive but thanks ☺️ just because 6/10 men watch it doesn’t mean she has to be ok with it. Good for you that you don’t care. She does. And that’s ok.

100% agree! My husband is the same way ❤️

exactly! My point is they exist! Just because the bar is on the floor for some women doesn’t mean she has to hold her man to the same standard. Like I don’t care what 6/10 men do lol I care what MY HUSBAND does.

My ex brainwashed me into believing there was nothing wrong with porn. I even watched it myself. It wasn’t until I met my husband that I realized how amazing it felt that a man only desired me. And that it’s 100% more than ok if I have a problem with it. I have absolutely 0 desire anymore. And even if I did, I would never EVER disrespect my husband like that. Same goes for him

also making comments such as “think to yourself why you’re not ok with him watching porn” and “work on your own confidence” suggesting she take a look into her own insecurities is a gross take. women are allowed to have boundaries and if their spouse watching porn crosses that and makes them feel disrespected, that’s 100% valid and they shouldn’t be made to feel like there’s something wrong with them - like they must feel “insecure” or maybe they just need to watch it, too, if they’re not ok with that… Lmao that’s a messed up mentality. And it’s not being “naive” either to have standards.

literally. Just adding “this isn’t a the woman is the problem” reply doesn’t mean that isn’t EXACTLY what you meant by your post. Like bffr.

yikes… I feel sorry for you 😂

whatever helps you sleep at night i guess 😂😂

must be odd to think you know someone’s husband better than they do. I feel sorry for you. Your man must lie a lot for you to think all men lie 🤭

wow so do we! Which is why we can actually communicate why we believe porn is inappropriate in our relationship and marriage. My husband is a nice Christian man and I’m very proud to be married to him. Oh.. and I don’t have to worry about him in the shower since 99% of the time I’m in there with him. Im sorry you and your man don’t satisfy each other enough so you have to depend on porn for pleasure. So sad. Have a blessed day though! ☺️