Having a mini mental breakdown..

I am a first time mom and I’m overly excited and anxious to embark on this new journey and I thank God for blessing me with this opportunity. However, since the very first time I told my child’s father that I was pregnant I have been blocked and avoided 100%. I am due in June & he’s taken no responsibility or accountability and is even in another relationship w someone else while lying to her about me and pretending to not know that this is his child. We were together and dating for 3 years and he completely switched up when I told him I was pregnant. Although I am happy w my blessing and have no regrets, I find myself having breakdowns bc it’s just not fair and it’s unfathomable how someone can be so disregarding. I feel bamboozled, ashamed, embarrassed, thrown away and less confident bc of this & also I’m just a little upset w myself for feeling this way and getting myself into this predicament. I honestly just feel sad and alone at that moment but I need advice on how to permanently change my mental state and how to move on completely and not allow this situation to upset me moving forward bc I want to be the best I can be for my son. 🥺

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Create the life you want for you and your son. Don't be surprised if when baby comes that he wants back in. But by the sounds of it I think you have enough about you to do exactly what you said....the best you can be for your son. Always remember that we do the best we can with what we know at the time. You can't be expected to do any more than that. Enjoy being a mum to a son. X

so sorry to hear that.. he definitely doesn't deserve you or his child! I can't believe how some people behave like this!
i'm a new mum and i'd advise that you have someone to help you when the child arrives, your mum or someone you trust as it is a hard job to be on your own! my partner helps me a lot when he's at home, but there's one day of the week that he comes home very late and I just feel desperate being on my own without help the whole day as it can be very exhausting..
i'm sure you will be an amazing mum and you'll give your son the love he needs!

So sorry to hear you are going through this. Honestly pregnancy can be hard all the hormonal changes and shifts. But you seem very strong and self sured. Honestly to esse your mind I would say try to establish a gooood support system. Hopefully you have family that are also very excited for this blessing or friends. Who know you might not even need them but just to know that their there could be a huge relief for you. Also try to have someone supportive with you while you give birth to just keep you company. I hope it all goes well and you find that peace of mind 😁

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