I’m a young mama I have 4 boys I had my first when I was 14 and I just had my youngest 2 weeks ago and I’m 21! My husband and I have been talking about one of us getting fixed but I don’t really know if I’m done or not. I want to be done just because life is soo expensive but deep down I don’t really know if I am done we don’t really know and now I’m stuck I haven’t been on birth control since I was 17 and got pregnant on the Nuva ring and it messed with my hormones and I gained a lot of weight did anyone else go through this?
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I just knew my third would be my last. I think when you know you’re done, you’re sure about it. Regardless, I won’t be one getting operated, my husband will be getting a vasectomy. It’s an in and out procedure for them and can be reversed if necessary. You can opt for your partner to be the one that gets it.

I am pregnant with my 3rd and 4th (twins) right now. This is it for us. My husband is getting a vasectomy. But I feel clarity in it because I’m 28 and he’s 30 and we have 4 beautiful children. It’s still a sadness knowing we’re done though! I don’t think that will ever go away. But, I know I’ll have babies down the road to love on who belong to my loved ones and I think that helps! But at 21 i wonder if I would be sure or not. It’s still young! That’s a hard choice that only the two of you can make. A vasectomy is definitely possible to reverse, although idk about the statistics of having babies after a reversal. But, it seems that would be the better option if birth control hasn’t worked out previously for you. And it’s less permanent than having a tubal or removal. Congrats on the new babe!! ❤️