Can’t take anymore.

I’m really done now. I’ve persisted again and again with my little one. Week after week of no sleep is messing with my head. Up every 45 mins. She had 9.30 hours sleep (not including the hour she was awake for between being up constantly) and I’m at a loss of how to navigate sleep during the day. She woke up at 5.30 and is already down for a nap and I’m just too tired to carry on.

Between the calculating, the nap windows, the wake windows, the regression I’ve just exhausted all options and it’s not even slightly getting better. I’ve got no help at all no one else to take the burden or do a night shift it all falls on me.

I don’t know what to do for my baby and I feel like it must be something I’m doing making her wake so much at night. Tried bed sharing and she still wakes every hour and it’s taking whatever bit of life I have left I’m at an all time low

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How old is he or she ? X

She’s coming up to 9 months. Trying to attempt to transition from 3 to 2 naps but she’s having such little night sleep that I can’t even start to try

Ok, here is what I did. Move baby to their own room if you can. My LO slept so much better after this. I also watched this free video from a sleep consultant and we moved from my LO waking up every half an hour, to now putting himself to bed and sleeping 8 hours through.

Message me I won’t judge you I’ve been there x

https://learn.sleepwellwithhannah.com/rewatch-workshop?r_done=1

Babies can learn to sleep, but it's a still which needs teaching, like everything theyre learning they need help, and we do too as mums! After watching the videos I decided to buy her sleep training book as I couldn't afford the hundreds of pounds for a sleep consultant. https://amzn.eu/d/dA6lKdV

I used the Pampers sleep app which really helped us x

I have totally been here too & still getting there. I tried a routine and I baracaded myself in doors for weeks trying to get him to sleep at the nap times he should be doing! It drove me mad and I felt awful. I have found working with wake windows the best it’s about 3 hrs at 9 months. And prob need about 3.5 - 4 before bedtime. We have just put him in his own room too and he’s gone from waking up 6/7 times to twice 😱😱😱😱😱😱 and that’s in just a few days, feel like a new woman xx

thanks for sharing x

We cosleep and during teething it really helped for me to get any sleep

Try the book The Helping Babies Sleep Method by Dr Sarah Mitchell. It was a life saver for me x

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?