Help Adjusting!!!

That’s really exciting—it sounds like everything is coming together for you, you’re where you want to be and on youre way up!
Not sure why you feel you need to slow down… the world needs for some women to be as ambitious as you are, so just remind your friends of that. There’s nothing wrong with their choices nor yours and yall can still be friends even some differences. They might think they’re being helpful by telling you to slow down or take your time, especially if you seem to be fretting.
Anyway, your kids will benefit from seeing you are a career woman. If your baby is ready for a daycare or nursery or whatever then it’s ok to put her in one. Try not to feel guilty or second guess yourself too much—I’m sure you’ve done your research and will choose a suitable childcare option.

I feel this! I’m an engineer who has worked hard the last 6 years to really establish myself in my career. I went back to work after 4 months of being off with my girl and it was such a mental battle for me. I love what I do, but I love my baby! She is now 2 weeks shy of a year and I just put in my notice. I am wrapping up a few projects and quitting at the end of May. Ultimately, my desire to be with my daughter won out, but I cried my eyes out when telling my boss. The goodbye was so so hard even though I know it’s what I want in this season. I ultimately decided that my career will always be there, but my baby won’t be this little again. I may get into it and miss challenging myself everyday and go back in 6 months, or I may wait 6 years, or I may never go back. Just like the decision to leave, I’m just going to follow my heart and where I feel like God is calling me for that particular season. All that being said, if you feel pulled to work, there is absolutely nothing wrong

With that!! Do what you feel called to do! And don’t get upset with yourself if your desires change with the seasons. I think the fact that you have the opportunity to choose is huge. So do just that, choose what is going to make you the best mama to your babies, whether that be taking some extra time off or showing them what a hard working mama is capable of!

I run my own business and have built it from Nothing for the past 12 years, I will not be quitting ( planning for 8 weeks off) im a full time photographer so I take a lot of pride and find my creativity and some identity in what I do. I also live in California.. and to be comfortable here both people have to work. I don’t think there is anything wrong with working and doing things independently of your kids… I think it shows your kids that you still have a life and dreams and aspirations too- as Americans we tend to but a lot of guilt on ourselves to be the perfect mom who sacrifices everything including any and all of herself ( which don’t get me wrong, I will do) but it’s also important that your life doesn’t end when baby comes.. other countries still allow time for mom to go to work.. America is one of the few countries that doesn’t support it financially as much