Frustrated in marriage

I'm extremely tired, and emotionally I am really not even interested in making things better lately. My daughter's a year old, so it's been about a year straight (a little more) of having conversations with my husband every couple weeks about how I don't feel supported or appreciated. The only thing that has changed in this time is that he wakes up with the babies on his days off so I can finally sleep. Other than that, I've repeated myself at least thousands of times on how he can make me feel more supported and help me with the workload that comes with small children and being the default person for every single task that isnt just going into work. He's the type of person that would let us live in piles of trash, love off fast food, and never change underwear to avoid cleaning anything. I've worked to compromise, give out specific lists of things that need done, even really pour my heart out on how doing everything for every person in my home makes me feel like we're roommates and that he's just another person I'm responsible for. Im truly at a loss, I don't even feel the desire to make us feel like a couple anymore. I really just needed to rant, but if anyone relates feel free to chime in-and if anyone has dealt with something like this feel free to share advice. As long as it isnt "talk to him" because I've used every word and tactic possible to fix this with words.

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I am not sure what you are asking. The title says “ does anyone actually have a relationship with a man that feels supportive and healthy?” And then at the last sentence you contradict yourself by saying the following: “I really just needed to rant but if anyone related feel free to chime in – and if anyone dealt with something like this feel free to share advice.“ Sorry I am just a bit confused. Please help me out here.

I'm sorry for what Ure going through. How about u consider couple counselling n seperation if this doesn't help?

I understand that feeling, even though my husband does try to help with stuff most of it does fall on me. The mental load of being a mother especially of young kids can be exhausting and overwhelming. I do find though when I’m struggling with feeling like I can’t do everything, I forget how much stuff is on my husband’s plate as well. I don’t really have any advice since I’m dealing with feeling overwhelmed by motherhood and family life at the moment too, but you’re not alone.

I am in the same boat my husband will spend all day on his phone then get mad when I don't want to cuddle or have sex with him. today was his day off and when I woke up I cleaned every room ad made breakfast while i was cooking he was on his phone while our son was screaming I told his is frustrating when he does that and he doesn't care after I sat down he asked me to get his medicine I said no and he threw a fit saying I was rude

He honestly doesn’t sound like he cares much about himself either, so the effort to make you feel special def wouldn’t be there. Like you described a teenager

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