Breastfeeding, Bottle feeding, Weaning Support

Latching/long post pls read :(

I hope I make sense but I feel like it’s just me;
To whoever got their baby to eventually latch. What exactly was your issue? For example did you have a good latch but they cried when put on? Did you try to put your breast in but they wouldn’t open their mouth wide enough? Did you just not compress your breast small enough?
I only ask because I feel like it’s me! This is my first baby so it would’ve been my first time breastfeeding! Sometimes I feel like I just don’t know how to get my breast in her mouth correctly. when I use to do it and she still had her “ newborn instinct” I would always get a shallow latch but now when I try the moment my nipple touches her lips and I try to push her into my breast she bites down on my nipple and then cries instantly!! And of course I hurt and then I take her off. And when I ask people they don’t really explain what their problem was other than “he/she just wouldn’t latch” she’s 3 months as of 2 days ago and I want to start using the nipple shield and try that but I tell my husband does she know how to do it but I don’t know how to position her and that’s the problem. I’m soooooooo exhausted from pumping and I really wanna try again but I wanna know if I have the same issue as other moms and then eventually got them to latch. I need some reassurance that I’m not the only person with this “issue”

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I have a similar issue and have to use a shield. For mine I think she has trouble getting the nipple deep enough so the nipple shield gives her the ability to get that deep latch. Sometimes she'll lose track of the nipple and cries looking for it when it's in her mouth. The lactation consultant told me to aim the nipple to the roof of their mouth to trigger that instinct. You may be having the same issue for your child not getting the deep latch and getting frustrated. Try the nipple shield and see if it improves. Also check with your pediatrician to see if your baby has a tongue tie. They're learning along with you. Try to be patient but I know it's hard. You got this mama! ❤️

I’ve gone to LC maaaany times. No luck

Hey I am peer support for ABM, I had issues with both my babies. I use a feeding pillow and the cross over hold which is they go across you.
Are you sat up straight feeding ? Also if lifting the breast into little one mouth you will need to keep your breast in that position as if you let go it will drop and change the feeding.
Where do you live ? Can find out if there is an ABM group near you

Hi, my only advice is to practice as much as you can. Don’t mean to scare you, but newborns start to loose their rooting reflex starting from 6-8weeks.
My first, she would always bite down on my nips and not let go. This always caused a lot of damage to my nips and I would exclusively pump for 2-3 days and try again. This went on till 8 weeks and she decided she didn’t want to try anymore and she’d start screaming just at the sight of my boobs. So that was the end of my first nursing journey. But I continued to exclusively pump for 18 more months.
Second time around, I persevered through it and would nurse even if my nips were bleeding. And with constant effort to get a better latch, it’s finally working out. He has mild lip and tongue ties so it has been a lot of work to get till here. The only thing that worked, was practice.
The more you put your baby on boob, The more you both will learn together to nurse.
I hope you do figure it out mama, good luck!

https://www.instagram.com/the.mama.coach?igsh=MWQ1ZGUxMzBkMA==

You can check out her content, I think they have an online lactation support as well.

Thompson method is what worked for me, when I breast fed my daughter. Nipple shields are also a must! :)

what’s the Thompson method

when do you did that was it early before 3 months and used nipple shields?

It’s a much gentler approach you can find it on YouTube I did it from the first day I gave birth to my daughter it worked wonders for us. :)

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