Toddler tantrums

Hey mamas!

So please can you tell me how do you deal with or discipline your child when tantruming and slapping, hitting and biting other kids especially when you have your second baby.

Is it just that I'm reading my toddler wrong. She's become more slappy. At home she's pushing her younger brother onto the ground and he face plants the floor 😔🫣

I give out to her here especially as I'm trying to usually get stuff ready for going out or just in the middle of something else. She refuses to be involved in certain tasks so I have tried that.

Out and about there's only so much gentle hands and don't do that you can do before you have to do something about it.

Today I brought her out of the soft play area to give her a break she wouldn't listen and I gave her two options either sit on the couch for now or go home. She wanted to go back in. She kept screaming and yelling and attempted to bite me.
We eventually did the music and singing all was ok. But then afterwards she got back into the soft play area and I kept an eye from afar.

She then started acting up and trying to put at a girls let's and dragging her trousers and they were coming off.

I took her out and brought her home. Although she was screaming at the top of her lungs. It was best to not stay as it wasn't benefiting anyone.

I did realise she was a little more hungry than usual as she ate a lot more when we went home (we barely got a chance to get food at the soft play) but got her a snack for the way home.

I think that was a part to play but not all the time as she isn't hungry and acts up with her brother.

What do you guys do in these situations or how can you anticipate or deal with them before or when they're happening to prevent escalation? Is a generally strict routine good or not? I have a loose routine but nothing too strict we always go somewhere in the morning by 9/9.30. And then an afternoon nap after lunch and then afternoon playing and snacks...and dinner..then slow down/shopping and night time routine.

Tips welcome thanks 🙏

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Great thanks so much! Yes it's the follow through and I think I wasn't as firm initially but did follow through! And yes to the routine with food etc! I find she doesn't want to eat her own things and generally she has eaten enough but she had disappeared before I could get over to the food area and I was already on alert a little bit as I could sense her energy with the other kids there. Yes and thanks for the advice with maybe being too strict or if I shout because I'm wrecked but I don't want her to be afraid of me/over react either!
It's such a learning curve on your first I find still 🙈🙈 and it's so much harder to keep on top of it all once there's two and when we're on the sleep deprived side 🫣🫣 great advice! Thanks again 🙏❤️

Thanks so much! We can all learn lol 🙈 and they really do humble us! I thought with one of yes it's great and easy to handle ....but yes much harder with two energy wise, and sometimes practically in those moments lol 😆🤣 yes this is where the fun begins! My girl is great but she goes through phases! As do they all I'm sure ❤️ really appreciate it! Feel I'm stuck in the survival mode at the moment with the sleep deprivation so want to catch anything before it gets out of hand 🫣😂❤️

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