feeling like a failure 😣

my little one has become sooo clingy at night all of a sudden and i’m trying to hold the expectation but it makes me feel like such a horrible person 😭😭😭 he wants me to lay in his teeny toddler bed w him but when i do all he wants to do is play. i love him to pieces but i am sooo burnt out. i give him as much affection as i can and i feel so horrible denying him of that but a mama has to rest too 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 any tips or kind words are appreciated 🫶🏼

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Following! My daughter just started doing this as well! So exhausting 😵‍💫😩

We got her a full size bed so we could get her out of our bed when she rebelled against her crib just before turning 2. I've been sleeping with her in her bed ever since. 😭 Hang in there!

I feel for you so much. Do WHATEVER it takes to make this time easier for you both because at the end of the day, it’s just about getting through this without traumatizing both of you 😂💗 I say that playfully, I just mean however you can best give both of you what you need. There’s no rules or “right way” to do this, there’s no lesson you have to teach them, everyone just wants sleep and connection. I got so fed up with the struggle that now I “go to bed” with her every night. She sleeps in a queen bed so I can actually sleep, and now that I’ve accepted this is the way it is rn, it’s not so bad. It’s a compromise for sure but it’s better and more manageable for us than the way it was. Every night I go to bed with her, snuggle, she gets playful and I slowly, as patiently as I can for that particular day, wind her down and when she falls asleep I creep out and get time with hubs. When I’m tired I go back to sleep with her. It’s not forever, no stage is. Save your sanity however you can.

thank you so much 😌 this helps a lot

i suppose a big bed is better than a teensy toddler bed!! lol 😆

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

Sleeping bag

8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

Has anyone died their kids hair a fun color and have any recommendations for kid friendly hair dye that actually works and stays in the hair for a bit? 👀👀👀

She has 3b brown hair and wants kpop demon hunter purple