Please help

So I’m ebf, and my supply has dropped significantly due to stress and depression and I don’t know what to do I feel like I’m failing my baby bc I don’t get enough calories due to lack of appetite from depression, and I can’t remeber to drink water, and I just feel so shitty. I need help getting my supply back up I don’t know what to do anymore I’m at a loss bc my own mental illness is failing me and my baby. We are at the hospital rn to help him gain weight

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How many times are you removing milk each day?

he’s constantly on the breast from comfort feeding and my boobs don’t feel full anymore and I’m only get .5 from east breat and very time I express

has he seen a pediatric dentist to be assessed for an oral restriction? Has he lost weight? The amount you pump is not indicative of your milk supply, baby is much more effective than a pump- assuming they don’t have an oral tie. It sounds like yours might. Women can breastfeed through famines and world crisis. Your body will just pull nutrients to make milk.

he’s 4 months 8lbs 11 oz and I thought they did oral restriction test at the hospital he does click a lot when feeding I have to rematch him constantly

they don’t do that at the hospital, only a pediatric dentist is qualified to assess. If he’s clicking a lot and popping off it sounds like a tie is likely. It’s not something they automatically look for. I’d take him in to get assessed and have the tie clipped if that’s the issue if you want to continue breastfeeding. This almost ruined my journey and now we’re going 13 months strong

so u went thru basically the same thing?

we sorted ours very early but yes she was clicking and having trouble latching and they did a suck pattern analysis and determined she had ties. My doctor dismissed it at first and I’m glad I didn’t listen

did ur breast feel empty all the time?

after I regulated yes!

the hospital is just making me feel crazy cause I hear him gulping he making regular diapers I just feel like I’m losing my mind

Is baby losing weight? Or not gaining any weight?

he gaining weight very slowly but he’s growing in height the doctors are worrying me so much

Your breasts should feel soft. Their fullness isn't indicative of your supply. Women breastfeed for years, they're not doing that with painful, engorged breasts. Yes they start of full and swollen but once your supply regulates they're usually soft

Also what you're pumping isn't indicative of your supply either. Baby is far more efficient at removing milk. Plus things like the wrong flange size can really reduce the amount you pump

If baby has enough wet and dirty nappies and they're gaining weight then you more than likely have enough milk

Oat milk, oatmeal for breakfast everyday, watermelon, almonds, brewers yeast, legendairy supplements, protein lots of protein, coconut water with pulp. I mean have these every single day. All day. Skin to skin! All of this will help increase milk immediately but not forever.
Supply is all about demand so u need to pump and fully empty to expect an increase. Power pump for 3hrs, 10mins on/10off. Do it for 1 day with a 3hr rest and repeat. Never miss a pump or supply will decreased quickly. Never go more than 5hrs without pumping.

You got this. I stopped and dried out for 2 months and felt the same thing u are going through...I started relactating and was able to increase my supply to 14oz in 2 weeks from NOTHING!! I power pumped every pump with elvie stride wearables when I was in public so I wouldn't miss a pump

in our community

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.