Feeling lost

I have completely lost myself after having another baby. Im in pjs all day. My hair?? All over the house. Dirty. My appetite? Garbage. I feel hideous and so unmotivated. How are you guys putting yourself together??? Help

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Honestly I talked to my dr and debated for a couple months of trying different things at home like, talking more things out with my s/o, going out side for 10 minutes to start and eventually spending a couple hours out, buying myself something small every time I go to the store, writing praises for myself to read, and finally just thinking positive thinking. But that wasn’t cutting it and I eventually add a low dose med to help balance things out while I balance out again!!

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Take time for yourself at the beginning of the day (shower, get a coffee, etc.) That helped me, even if you shower and get into new comfy clothes, at least you changed your clothes for the day. Take baby for a walk/stroll with a friend regularly. Getting out of the house really really helps. As for cleaning, I made a weekly task list and broke it down to a few things per day so it didn't get as overwhelming. Hubby can see the list and helps too. At the end of the night, Take 5 minutes to pick up toys, load the dishwasher and start it. If you do even just a few minor things in the evening, the next day doesn't feel like there is as much to clean up.

But definitely have someone babysit here and there or have hubby watch the little one so you can get out of the house at least once a week either by yourself or with some friends. You can't fill other people's cups if yours is empty so do what you need to do to feel like you again. Fill your own cup first.

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I am trying yoga, nothing fancy, just me and YouTube in my living room for 20 minutes, it really has helped me with my anxiety and I feel more motivated to start the day ☀️

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Honestly I was the same too! Never felt motivated to get ready or feel good. If you have a significant other or a family member that helps you with the baby, I would talk to them about letting you have time in the morning to get ready. I did that and at first it took me like a week or two to actually do it because I was so stuck in my rut for so long. But then I started taking morning shower and getting ready, even if it was just washing my face and combing my hair. Then I would take my baby out for a quick stroll and that has helped me a lot to feel good and motivated to get things done.

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