Need some advice for when baby is born...
So me and the bd are not in a relationship but we are on good terms. We talk everyday , not a lot but enough. We sometimes have some intimacy and we don't live with each other. He doesn't want to be in a relationship because there is just a lot of other things to worry about which I get and we are both not where we want to be in life. To me it would be easier to do this together but he doesn't want to try, at least not right now. Anyways I asked if Im going to stay with him while I heal and he was hesitant at first but he said yes I can stay with him while I heal from the c section. Now that it's getting closer and I'm thinking I don't want to stay with him because I already feel like I put way more effort into everything than he does and I don't want to be mad about it when baby comes. I might want to stay at my place and do it all myself and let him have his freedom or whatever he chooses. He might be different when he finally gets to hold baby but I don't know if I want to stay with anymore. I just feel like a burden to him. But if I tell him that I already know he is gonna make it into a thing and get upset. So idk what to do ... any advice?
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Red flags. I’d break off all ties with him. He gets what he wants from you (emotional and physical) and doesn’t have to put in much effort. It’s his kid and he should want to do all the things.
I have to agree with Abby to a certain extent. You are providing him with everything he could ever want from you so there is no initiative, for him to be anything more. No desire to be responsible or supportive. I say this with sincerity but please try to exercise some self worth because you should be cared for/helped when you are birthing this man’s child. You did not make this child on your own, nor was it only your choice to get pregnant. I firmly believe every woman will need some kind of assistance while giving birth and afterwards. Whether that is going to be him or someone else is up to you but you are worth help. We all are, pregnancy, child birth, and raising a child is no easy task and in my opinion should not be done alone. As they say, it takes a village. Whatever you decide I wish you well ❤️
@Yasmine thank you so much for that. I'm not a priority and I see that ... I just thought this would be different it hurts to know that I chose wrong and have to be a single mom again
Honey we all make mistakes but mistakes remain mistakes if we don’t learn from them. I truly believe every mistake can be an opportunity for growth and knowledge. Please prioritize yourself and that beautiful blessing you have inside you. You are worth it.
Ugh I hate guys right now 😩I’m 7 months pregnant. Staying with my baby dad. I’m planing to leave just gotta have my baby and find another job. He wanted a relationship again but now he don’t. Im not a roommate and didn’t sign up for that. Planing my escape. Guys suck!!’ Not all I know….
If you can…do it on your own. He was hesitant and he didn’t want you to stay with him. He doesn’t want a relationship. He just wants to get what he wants and have no real connection with you. Y’all can coparent without playing those games.
@Victoria oh we aren't in a relationship but I did expect him to help me recover since I'm having a c section
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