Early mothers day

So we had an early mothers day celebration with my husbands family on the weekend. It's my first mothers day. When we got to the restaurant, fil comes up to us, starts talking to the baby and puts his arms out to take her from me. Doesn't even acknowledge my presence. I say hi how are you and he says good thanks without even looking up! Is that rude or am i tripping?This man acts like im nothing since we have had our baby. Ive never been able to stand him but hes gotten worse. If it was a one off incident I'd not think much of it but he's so rude. Whenever we see them he's trying to reach out to grab her the second they get to our house and we get to theirs. Hes even said to my face "we're not here to see you!" to me and laughed afterwards... though i know he's not joking. We have never been close and we wouldn't see them often before baby but now we are being bombarded by them. I dont think he likes that i dont just hand baby over constantly. Yes i let him hold her but sometimes she needs to get used to her environment before shes comfortable so i say jist wait 5 he doesnt like it. He snatched her once and snapped at how i need to let other people hold her because i didn't want to hand her off the second we got somewhere. He got the shits because i asled him to not walk off with the baby please too. I didnt give him the baby as she didn't want to go to him... not that i would have particularly wanted to seeing as he ignored me. We got his mum a card, chocolates, flowers and some books from my husband, our baby and I. We all say happy mothers day etc. They want photos and they take photos of everyone but me and my husbands sisters husband. I was a bit hurt no one thought to get a photo of me and my baby. I had to distract baby so she would stop crying too as she isn't a fan of mil, because mil wanted a photo with her. Fil kept trying to take baby probably about 4-5 times and bsby lost it every single time. He said to her "we will have to come visit you more often" as he thinks that's the reason she doesn't like them. They come stay with us a lot more often already than I'm ok with and with the downright rudeness I won't cope seeing them even more. I wish I could be honest with them and tell them bsby has seen my mum far less and absolutely adores her in addition to liking people shes met only once far more. How do I deal with them? My husband is unsupported of all this by the way.