Two under two stay at home mums

Any stay at home mums struggling with energy levels and having a toddler?? I have a 15 month old at home and he has endless energy which I just can’t match. My mum guilt is through the roof and I feel myself being so short because I’m so tired. I feel like I can’t soak up this last little bit of time with him because I’m so exhausted and achy.

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I totally feel you here! My daughter will be 2 in July and I feel like the Wiggles have raised her for the last couple months. Even just going to the park for a couple hours is exhausting!

Mine are now 4 and 5. It definitely DOES get easier. People used to tell me all the time that it doesn’t but it does.
This is the hardest time raising them when they are both low/non verbal and learning how to deal with all their emotions. So go easy on yourself. When you snap and when you need to rest. Forgive yourself. They still love you. They know you love them. When you need to just take a break. Put the tv on it won’t hurt. Look at books. Play puzzles. Do some colouring at the coffee table while you lie down on the couch. Do what you need to do. Your mental health and the time you give yourself to reset helps you be strong enough to do what you need to do for them. YOURE AMAZING MAMA 🤩❤️

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