Is it too weird to name your baby the same name as an ex?

So.... My husband suggested a name for our second son that's due in September and it just happens to be the name of someone I dated 😅 we both love the name, but idk if I'll be able to get past the association. I have NO ill feelings towards the particular ex and zero interaction with them or any friends in common anymore (dated 10+ years ago). But it was a pretty serious relationship. Is it weird?

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If it’s a common name and you both like it….id say not weird at all! It’s not like you’re naming him “after” the ex, they just happen to have the same name. BUT I’d definitely let the husband know about the association and see how he feels about it as well!

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What’s the name?👀

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he knows now. It doesn't bother him. And it's not an unheard of name, but not SUPER common. My ex is the only one I've ever actually met with that name.

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Calvin. Our first son's name is Carter, so we want another C name. We're between Calvin and Colby

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Oh I’d say Calvin is pretty common! I love the name and it goes well with Carter!! I’d say go with it!

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I like Colby, or Cobi/Kobi x x

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But there's nothing wrong with using the name Calvin if you both like it x x

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Lol just know that you won't be able to call your LO the name without thinking about your ex

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I was in the same boat as you, but it was literally the only name my husband and I could agree on. I don’t regret it at all. If you both like the name I say go for it!

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he knows and is totally okay with it. He just loves the name.

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I'd say as long as you both like it and your partner knows the association and still doesn't know then there is no harm in it x

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10+ years ago? I'm surprised you even remember 😅
It's fine. Name your baby what you want! Unless you have feelings for Calvin to the point you picture him when the name is said, you will be fine.

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if u think of him when u say the name then yeah lol that’s all ur gunna think ab my BD said my exs name too and I was like nahhhhhh lol

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Potentially a bit odd but if your husband is aware of your ex having the same name and he's ok with it then go for it, my best friend named her son after my brother because she had the biggest crush on him growing up... Her husband didn't know this and was so annoyed when he found out 😂

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lol, yeah, that's kinda awkward. Hubby knows and doesn't mind. It's still his favorite name. And he knows that it might make me think of that ex, but honestly, neither of us are worried about that. I have no feelings towards him anymore, positive or negative, and it's not like he was a crap person or anything lol. And my husband never met him (even though I've known my husband my whole life)

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I'd say to go for it then if you both love the name x

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