Visitors after C-Section

I recommend you hold to what you want and don’t feel bad, but also recognize that you might have the baby and completely change your mind about wanting people around and that’s okay too!!

I had an unplanned csection. We knew ahead of time no visitors at the hospital so nobody gave us push on that. Coming home — we didn’t really have an idea of when we’d want visitors but my mom ended up coming over with my dog (who I really needed to see) that first night and I am so glad she got to meet my son first and so soon after he was home!! After that my step dad, and sister came over like 3 days later and my in-laws stayed with us for a week at around 2 weeks postpartum. I was super glad and so grateful to have everyone around so I could rest, and my partner could rest and we knew that not only was my the baby being taken care of but our house was being looked after!

You do you. Don’t let anyone else make you feel bad about it!

I think it’s completely reasonable to want space - not only are you recovering from major surgery, but you are also trying to get used to this brand new life with your new baby. I’m having a c-section also and have already put my foot down to a few family members. At the end of the day, they can get frustrated with our decision but it’s not theirs to make, and I think they have to respect that! I honestly wouldn’t cave into people’s reactions to your decision. You’ve made that decision for a reason and you don’t want to regret having people over too soon ☺️

FTM and probably gonna need a c section, I’m wondering about time before having visitors too. I’m firmly at *minimum* two weeks, but tbh I think 3 weeks might be better for me. Honestly I think you should protect your peace first. I’ve had a few comments but they then sort of caught themselves and backtracked. I think it’s a difficult but important lesson in having healthy boundaries around your new family. Don’t feel bad! I’ve only ever heard of people regretting letting people in too soon, never have I heard a new mum regretting having set a boundary to recover and enjoy the baby bubble for a few weeks. From everyone I’ve asked, they recommend it highly!

Do what you want and don’t feel guilty!

How I did it was had people at the hospital and they got it out their system and then no one for 2 weeks at home which worked best for us as they had seen baby but it was kept to minimum as was at the hospital and then I got our family time

Second child it was opposite as we had some time just us and family helping with our first born at home xx

I think it’s completely up to you, for me being in hospital and going through it all I did want to see familiar faces so mum and dad came to see us and I was so glad they came. We then just had his mum and dad come the 2nd day we was home only for an hour. then we just had people over gradually as I didn’t want them all waiting and then coming at the same time. We just had then siblings pop in who would bring us food and check if we needed anything.

I think it’s good you have set boundaries now especially that your recovery could be hard and you just want to think of your little family and not other people and see how you go if anyone is offering to bring stuff or help do take it and even if it’s a pop in for like half hour can do it on your terms but just see how you go and you may want to have certain people over before 2 weeks

I wouldn’t do it if you don’t want them to as your bubble is so special in the beginning and would only have people over if you feel ok with it

I said we didnt want hospital visitors and would let people know when we were ready at home and I was supposed to have vaginal birth. My family weren't best pleased but explained why.
I ended up in an emergency C section anyway. They stayed away during my 2 nights in the hospital but then I wanted to show off my little girl so started inviting people round.

We had back to back visitors from family for 4 days and it was so overwhelming and not good for my recovery as rushing to get up and shower and help partner tidy for arrivals.
Do not recommend at all.

Will be spacing out my friends visits after a few days rest now

I didn’t have any visitors for two weeks although my mum and sister did visit once in hospital!

C-section recovery is so physical and the baby bubble is just the best thing ever, you don’t need to be worrying about anyone coming round and feeling like you have to entertain them. Set the boundaries you need ❤️ and if you feel different once bubba is here, I’m sure your visitors would be round as soon as you welcome them! X

It’s not wrong to want space but it’s a totally personal choice. I’ve had two sections and had visitors from day 1, family had to fly in and with baby 2 they looked after our toddler for us till I got home. I felt fine in recovery and was up walking, showered and looking for coffee that evening, everyone is different.

It's a totally personal choice, so there's no "right" answer. I had visitors in hospital and pretty much as soon as we got home. Getting back to our routine and having friends and family around actually greatly helped my mental health post partum.

No visitors at the hospital 🙅‍♀️so that you can adjust peacefully and incase of help hospital staff are there to help but once you get home don't be too rigid, appoint one person maybe your mom or friend whoever you trust for a wellness check in,sometimes recovery is not always what we anticipate it to be(I am not fear mongering you) and the first 3wks can be quite challenging with c section and a newborn and you need all the help available. As much as we rely on our partners, I think it is also a hard time for them mentally as they will also be adjusting, but it goes down to your personal choice, really.

Your baby, your body, your recovery, your choice. I would simply say: “we will let you know when we are comfortable having visitors. We are going to focus on my recovery and our bonding with baby. Please don’t ask again”

It’s not unreasonable to protect your mental space, it can be overwhelming having lots of people around and no space to recover in peace. Only you know your limit. If you feel compelled to see visitors, space it out every 2-3 days so you have breathing space in between. Focus on recovery, bonding with baby, and and managing the PP hormones. Keep taking PP vitamins too, they’re critical to stabilising out mood during this time xxx

I had a baby in July & my parents came to the hosp, then family within few days when we got home. If I have another baby I would invite everyone to hosp to get it out the way, because people stay toooo long if you’re at home! Tbf I did tell my grandparents they could pop in for 10 mins and they did just stay that long but this wasn’t the same with everyone