First Midwife Appointment

Was this your booking appointment? X

I had to talk myself out of going on Google and googling everything that could go wrong for this reason! It sucks that your midwife left you feeling worried though, but I guess they have to cover their own backs by saying everything that can happen

Please do not worry and i reccomend to stop googling, i know it can be hard but google does not help, they will let you know whatever concerns they have for your baby during any appointments or scans they will never hold information from you and you will be guided along the way, the first appointments are always the hardest as there is just so much information, if she gave you information sheets/booklets have a read through them but stressing about somthing that may not happen isnt worth it, you can call to make another midwife appointment to go over the information again and explain your worries insted of googling information x

An early scan before the 12/20 weeks won’t show if there’s anything wrong with the baby as they are far too small. A lot of people get them done for reassurance to make sure that baby is in the right place and has a heartbeat.

I definitely wouldn’t google anything as Google just scares people for no reason as every pregnancy is different as well x

All the advice above is really good! However, I was also EXTREMELY anxious when I first found out I was pregnant, and I know first hand it’s not always easy to follow this advice, I personally couldn’t help myself but to worry and google things. In
my experience, the only thing that actually helped me was to have private scans whenever I felt a little uneasy and couldn’t shake it off. It turned out to be very expensive ofc 😅 but it was the only way I could calm down and enjoy my pregnancy x

Congratulations by the way ❤️

Oh no, your booking appointment should be calm and reassuring, not stressful!

What exactly did she say that worries you?

Please try to stay off Google and try not to get stressed. It's not good for you or the baby x

I really struggled to relax with both my pregnancies until after the 20 week scan for similar reasons, I researched the life out of everything that could be wrong the first time round. My first son was born with a heart condition that wasn’t diagnosed in pregnancy and that taught me that there is no ‘safe’ zone in parenthood and the anxiety at the beginning just changes as they grow! You can drive yourself mad worrying about them if you consider everything that can possibly happen throughout their lifetime.

I found focusing on one day at a time really helped! Today you are pregnant and healthy, tomorrow is a new day that you can worry about tomorrow.

As hard as it is try to enjoy your pregnancy, take all the bump progress photos, make all the memories it goes by so so fast. Yes a lot can be wrong, but remember most pregnancies are uneventful and end in a healthy baby x