Mommy guilt

I like to travel and be outdoor, cos I’m all the time at home with my baby. We rarely go anywhere. I feel she and I needs to go more outside. It will be good for her development also. My husband things we should be home until baby gets older 2-3 years. Currently she’s 13 months. so he is always reluctant to take us out. Also whenever we have gone out on my insisting, my baby gets unwell, and my husband accuses me. This time again we did short tour, and my daughter got bad cough and is puking. It’s again cos of me. Am I a bad mom ??? I feel so guilty.

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I think it’s really important that babies get out and about I know they catch more colds etc but it’s good to build their immune system when little my lo gets seriously bored in the house so we are out most days whether that’s a dog walk a baby class a stay and play a cafe she loves being out please don’t feel guilty

Catching cold is important for their immune system. I personally think dinner you start, better.
Take her out, park, baby group. Things will get easier. If he doesn't wanna go, his loss of amazing memories and fun

it’s so sweet that your husband takes you out after coming home. It’s easy when you have a partner who cares and understands and you’ve got a pair of extra hands to take care of things outdoor of the baby gets cranky..

my baby gets bored at home. She loves being outside I can tell. So I try take her out without him for short walks. But travel is off the list for now i think. ☹️ yesterday i swore to myself seeing my daughters health that I’m never gonna demand for trips until she’s old enough. But today when she seems better I’m again planning trips in my dream land . 😛

Me and my husband are doing the North Coast 500 camping with our little one this summer so you should absolutely be going out and about. It's amazing for your mental health and your baby. She will get ill everytime she goes out if she is frequently being shielded. I work full time and my husband is a stay at home dad and I wouldn't dream of accessing him or telling him he can't go out and about etc 🥰

exactly .. I wish husbands could experience the mothers side , being at home with baby/toddler, cooking, cleaning, all day, without any appreciation or break, they would end up in a psychiatric ward. 🙄

I can understand. I think the first two years post having a child are tough for a couple. I too feel love completely missing in our marriage. But I just count on my blessings and move on with the day. At the end we both love our daughter and she deserves the best. I’ve been raised by parents who always fought. They still do and it has impacted me and my brother. I don’t want to repeat the circle with my daughter.

.. lots of good vibes to you..

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢