Broken nipples/bad latch

My baby is 9 days old today, she latched great for the first couple days but then the last couple days it's really painful to have her on me! One of my nipples are now too sore to breastfeed with as it bleeds the second she tries latching and the other one is starting to feel a little sore as she's constantly on that one so I'm having to pump (something I didn't want to do yet). I don't know what I'm doing wrong! She will feed for 20/30 minutes at a time on one boob and sometimes want a bottle of expressed milk afterwards when my nipple gets to sore to put her back on me so I don't know how much she's getting from me but she'll happily drink and oz or 2 after night feeds! Surely she can't be getting much if she's still hungry after 30 minutes of feeding from me or is this normal

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How is her latch? If your nipples are bleeding- that definitely might be the part of it! Mine did that when my LO was first born and it was 1000% because her latch wasn’t deep enough. Aka my nipple was basically being mashed by her gums vs getting past her gum line. (Sounds silly but pop your pinky in her mouth and you’ll feel the pressure on the tip of your pinky when it’s at the gum line BUT if you get your pinky past her gum line, you’ll feel the difference! So the goal is to get your nipple even further in!

For the feeding stuff, there’s a chance she might just be cluster feeding or if you are feeling discomfort, maybe her latch is making your nipples hurt but also isn’t deep enough for her to adequately fill her little belly! Maybe see if you can visit with a LC if you’re still struggling with the latch/ bleeding nipples! That is so so tough!!
Things to remember: •you’re both still learning! •everything will be ok! • her belly is still very small so she doesn’t need a lot!!

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It hurt the first two weeks for me. My baby bit down hard to stop the flow and was a power sucker. It caused me to have an over supply with how strong she sucks. I found after that point things were fine again and the pain went away since her latch got more efficient without needing to suck harder

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