Ferber method

I've been using the Ferber method to sleep train my baby for naps, but after four days, she still cries for about an hour and only sleeps for 30-40 minutes. I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong. She's used to sleeping on me, and I typically rock her to sleep, but she's 6 months old now, and I can't rock her for every nap. We co-sleep at night so I-don’t do any training for night it’s just for the naps. I'm really struggling and desperately need some advice on how to help her adjust.

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Maybe try red light and lullabies to help soothe her x

We went through a sleep regression around that time and it was really intense. She went from being able to fall asleep on her own to crying and resisting sleep even when we rocked her. I was losing it so ended up just feeding to sleep for a month or so. She still woke quite a lot at night so around 8 months we tried a gentle sleep training approach where we soothed her in the crib just not picking her up. She only protested for 20min the first time then it kept getting better until she was independently sleeping again. Sleep regressed again after teething/illness.

My takeaway is that certain babies respond to certain techniques when they’re ready for them. We just have to find the technique and stick with it for a while. If you think Ferber is not working, maybe find a more hands on approach like the chair method and stick with it for a week or so and see whether there’s any change. If it’s not working, it may be that your baby just isn’t ready for sleep training at the moment.

I’m not an expert, just my conclusion after I’ve tried a million different things to get our baby to sleep. There could be quite a few different things at any given time - teething, tummy ache (started solids?), hunger, illness, developmental phase, separation anxiety, too hot/cold, too much/not enough white noise, under or over tired, parental preference of the moment, or just how the wind blows that day. It’s wild! The best thing you could do is give something a go, then use a bit of your intuition to guide you whether it’s the right fit for your baby at that time.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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