Strain on relationship..

Does your postpartum depression and anxiety is ruining your relationship with your partner?

How can your partner be supportive of what you’re going through? What is your partner doing for you when you are an emotional rollercoaster?

I don’t know how to help myself and idk how I can ask my partner to help me. LOST and feel really alone in my thoughts even though I know I’m NOT alone and others feel the same!

I’m frustrated 😣 I was working on myself pre-baby and now I feel like self-care and my self-growth are thrown out the window as I am caring for my son. My hormones are everywhere (can’t make sound decisions, can’t think straight, can’t talk right or even have time to think things thoroughly) and it’s not allowing me to do what I need to do for myself because I’m too stressed, anxious and worried about my son. His needs are just WAY MORE IMPORTANT than mine.

I’m now considering therapy ONCE a week to help me navigate this 😭😭😭😭😭

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I feel the same I started therapy and it’s helping to talk about it but make sure you find one who’s certified in PPD!!

Yes its one of many strains on a relationship postpartum

He should sit down and listen to what you need for support. This could be encouraging you to do daily things that help like walks outside, drinking and eating enough, taking on a fair share of night time baby care so you sleep or taking baby so you nap on weekends. Taking on a share of the mental load. Helping defend your boundaries to visitors and when you visit his family. Support you in your decisions for baby. Hold the baby so you can call to make an appointment for therapy.

Having open honest talks about things like intimacy so you know there is no pressure from him and don't have to worry about that

I agree therapy is best if tailored I did a generic one and didn't help at all

I can totally relate and you're 100% not alone

How often did you do it? Did you ever talk to your therapist about your relationship? Mine sucks and it’s been falling apart even pre-baby.

I go once a week and text her when I need advice & so has mine I know how you feel seriously

The sad part is…he’s been emotionally detached for a long time now & so he doesn’t really seem to care to want to support me. It’s so easy for him to just go about life doing what he was doing even before the baby was here. He was encouraging me to do things and when I did them — I told him I have major mom guilt, miss my freedom and don’t want to come home. I’m stubborn sometimes and also a person who always did things for others :/ ITS SO HARD for me to accept help! It’s a constant battle. Idk how couples do it tbh. I preach these things you mentioned but just can’t seem to get myself to do what I preach (as it helps others and not me).

@Jenn honestly totally how I feel!! Therapy definitely will help!!! I also found finding even a few minutes a day for self care such as standing outside or reading a book while feeding the baby helps!

Yeah — once a week might really help me out. What?! I would love to be able to text my therapist for advice. I need a lifeline therapist lol.

IT IS SERIOUSLY SO HARD! I broke down yesterday RANDOMLY during work and had to take myself outside to cry and all of a sudden, I stopped and I’m like WTH?! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Therapy can be super helpful in this situation! Have you seen Prospera? Https://prosperamhw.com

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