Possible Pregnant
I’m terrified, I don’t want to be pregnant. I had 3 by the time I was 24. I have my flo app set up to tell me when I can get pregnant so I can avoid those days. my fiancé and I barley have sex. He’s the type to keep begging and begging even after I say no. I just give in to get it over with. He was begging back on June 4th I told him no because that’s one of the days I could possibly get pregnant. He was begging like wouldn’t stop. I gave in and I told him he’s pulling out. He promised he would and he held me against him so I couldn’t move.
He did the same thing 2 nights ago. And he was saying while we were having sex “did you ever consider that I want more kids”. ’m supposed to get my period today and it hasn’t come. I also get before period cramps every time and it hasn’t come.
I already have 2 under 2 and I don’t want that again.
Before anyone says “just go on birth control or get an IUD” I have tried 5 different birth controls between 16 and 18 and each time I would puke them up right after. My family Dr suggested an IUD at 18. Once I got it put in and I was leaving the hospital I collapsed. They brought me back and my body was rejecting it.
I don’t know what to do if I am. I’m so scared. I actually wanted to enjoy my summer this year. I have my cousins wedding and a trip planned with a friend. I’m not saying I need alcohol to have fun but it would be nice to have a summer where I can just sip on a drink out in the sun. This would my third summer pregnant.
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Your problem isn’t anything to do with birth control, it’s that your fiancé has no respect for you and has sexually abused you. That’s not a relationship I’d be staying in, pregnant or not pregnant.
The first thing to do is to take a pregnancy test so that you know where you stand. Then you can consider your options.
Do you have friends or relatives you can confide in for support?
just wanted to add in that I’ve tried every option of birth control and my body doesn’t want to accept it because I’ve gotten a lot of people before saying “maybe you should go on birth control”
I felt violated after he did that and I told him and I told him that it really made me upset when he asked if I ever considered him.
I’ve gotten an abortion before because I was sexually abused and I felt terrible after and still do.
Should I take a test tomorrow or today?
Yes, I read your comments in your original post about birth control, my point is that if you had a respectful partner there’d be no need for you to take hormonal birth control. So anyone who comes on this post saying that you should be on birth control is missing the point entirely.
I’d take a test today if I were you because it’s going to play on your mind until you do. Just make sure you’ve held your urine for 2-3 hours first to give the highest chance of an accurate result.
You don’t NEED birth control. It doesn’t agree with me either. I’ve been on it one time in 31 years and it was absolutely horrible. Tracking can work just as well to avoid pregnancy so it isn’t like you aren’t doing the right things. As for what your fiancé did that would turn me off and I’d never have sex with him again to be honest.
Just wanted to add that you felt violated because you WERE violated. A respectful man, who decides he wants more children, sits down and discusses that with his partner and seeks her opinions. He doesn’t pin her down and come inside her without her consent. Do you have a daughter? How would you feel if a man did that to her one day?
Also, I’ve been through sexual abuse and cannot do anything “kinky” either especially anything dom related. If you want to msg me you can
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