Obsession in babysitting my baby

Personally....I never felt the need to want to have someone babysit. I was perfectly content. I may have trouble of letting control go but I know that no one else will take as good of care of my baby than me 🤷‍♀️ I also only trust my parents to ever watch her as they haven't overstepped my boundaries nor have they almost dropped her because she doesn't like to sit still being held and likes to yeet herself off of the couch and my MILs reflexes aren't that good at all and will only get worse.

My MIL did the same! It got to the point where they were constantly overstepping boundaries and making passive aggressive comments. We did let her babysit for 2 hours so I could workout and shower while my hubby went out to eat with his dad and she never changed my baby’s diaper or even checked it. I got her back with a completely soaked diaper and she “had no idea it was wet” and “did not know where things were” and was “unsure of how to change a girl’s diaper only having boys” so we called her out and said she’d never babysit again, she called me an unfit mother, we went no contact. We’ve been in peace for over a year now ☺️

I made it very clear nobody will babysit my baby simply because I don’t want them to 😊

Some people love the help and for a break and that’s totally fine but I’ve never felt the need and that’s okay too. Don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to. This is your baby not theirs x

Why is it always the husband’s family that disrespects boundaries and wants to act like the baby is community property?

same here. My son is almost 1 year old and I’ve left him with his dad a few times for no more than an hour. He goes where I go and if he can’t go then I won’t go. We also ebf and he doesn’t take pacifiers or bottles so that makes is very convenient for me to decline any offers.

You usually find those same people don't want to babysit anymore when you actually want a break because baby isn't like a doll they can hold and dress up anymore 🙄

EXACTLY. My son is not a toy!

Ugh this is so annoying! People don’t understand that your baby doesn’t want to be away from you at that age! And nor do you want to be away from them!!
My boy is nearly 10 months and my in-laws are retired and often say they’ll happily ‘have him’ for a couple of hours every week so that I can have some time to do stuff in the house. I’m like…no thanks! I want to spend all the time I can with my little one. I like having him around while I’m doing stuff 😂 I’d rather that they said they just wanted to see him and come over whilst I’m also there and didn’t make out so it was them doing me a favour 🙄
Stick to your gut! If you don’t want to do something, simply don’t do it!

isn't is so lovely how you also become irrelevant anymore after you've had the grandchild? My husband's parents have actually said "not that we don't want to see you, but where's the baby?" when I have first walked into their house! Yeah, really makes me want to even consider you watching my kid when you dgaf about her parents.

I can 100% relate! Since having my baby my communications with my in laws has basically gone down to zero…when they do contact me it is to ask about my son or push to babysit. I am obsolete now

They all seem to do it!! They just can't help themselves! I got pressure from about 2 months too and kept my foot firmly down until just before his first birthday when WE felt ready and actually needed the break.

Yep! Girl my husband's parents would come out to see us MAYBE once a year before we had a kid. It got to the point my husband was all, "well they aren't going to invite themselves out so I gotta be more intentional of inviting them out". Which, we did, and they'd stay for like an afternoon. They would also come out to our area for whatever reason during the day, and tell us that they did after the fact. My husband has told them before to tell him when they do that so they can get lunch or something...."we didn't want to bother you during work"... literally the response every time when he tells them

But now.....oh man ....now they gladly invite themselves over to "see Sophia.......oh...and you guys too". I've seen them more in her first year of life than we ever did before a kid.

3.5 years later and still being pushed to let them babysit…. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I still don’t see the need I sometimes on occasion have had my son at either parents for the afternoon but he’s never been overnight and he’s two in August, i know what they mean by in a couple of months but I’d say well I’m glad the offer is still open for then but for now I’m enjoying our baby bubble and getting used to our bundle in our lives xx

I don’t get it either 🤷🏼‍♀️ It mostly comes from my MIL but my mom also occasionally mentions giving me “a break”. Personally, I don’t need a break from my child. I need a break from cooking or laundry 😅 Idk about y’all, but the more someone pushes to babysit the less I trust them. Like why do you need to be with my baby alone so badly?

The ones who press it are also the ones you don’t want babysitting… it’s funny how the two go together. My mom and family have never pressed it. Made sure we knew they were around to help however we needed. When I was ready, they were the ones we asked. Husband side became really weird when their first attempt at 2 months didn’t pan out.

omg this is EXACTLY the same with my husbands parents! And they never made any effort or got to know me now they want to come stay with us all the time ti snatch the baby!

it's so annoying. The last time they were out they got there at 5;15pm, we put the baby to sleep at 6;30. They stayed up to talk to us until 8:30pm (we usually stay up until 9/9:30) and they used the "we should let you get to sleep" line. And then the next morning, they got to see her staring at 6:30, then by 8;30 they used "well, we should go so you can baby girl to napping". She wasn't even showing signs of being tired. But also, why not stay and visit with your son some more! His mom also mentioned "well we haven't seen you in a long time". And even asked if we were staying 1 or 2 nights when we went out to visit them. I said most likely just the one. And she was all "well you should stay the 2 and leave after church". And it's like why the hell would I want to do that. Doing that stressful without a kid because they live almost 2 hours away from us! They don't need to get ready for the week on Sunday like we do since they are retired!!!! I couldn't believe the audacity!

omg right!! I find it super creepy when people try to be alone with my baby or call me overprotective!!