I wrong to feel.like a sex doll ?

What do you guys do together to connect, do you go on dates, do things together? Sometimes couples call fall into ruts and kind of forget what they love about eachother, how to laugh together and just to tune it back and chat over quiet music and a drink together can really bring closeness that brings intimacy and won't feel like a chore. Maybe have a weekend without him and work on you and just chill, sometimes that break in routine can help and he probably wouldn't know what to do with himself if you were busy..remind him of that. Remind you of that.. find that spark, talk with him

I'd say its a bit far to be leaving him for it, wanting to be desired and pleased sexually is natural and if my partner suddenly wasn't interested in me I would think something else was going on, sex is important in a relationship, if you don't want it that is absolutely fine and he can not and should not make you feel bad for that but you shouldn't make him feel bad for wanting it when it's been a normal part of your relationship for 15 years, I think a real conversation needs to be had and maybe go to the Dr to find out what's going on, of it is menopause then atleast you know for sure and it won't be forever, there are ways to have a healthy sex life, but if its generally because you are not attracted to him anymore or have sexual desire for him then I'd say let him go but don't make him feel bad for it, remember you are partners and both need to respect each other

Put your boundaries in place and enforce them. Tell him that if he wants to see you next weekend (bit to late notice for this weekend) then you don't want anything sexual. You want to spend time together and if he loves you like I assume he says, he should be willing to accept that. If not, kick him to the curb and know your worth.

It sounds like something is affecting you. Have you tried talking with a sex therapist to find out what is affecting you and the way you feel towards sex? Before things can get better, I would suggest trying to sort things out for yourself. *hugs*

I agree with Triezamein. He heard you say no and he wants to do it anyway. That shows no concern for you whatsoever. No wonder you feel like an object. If he can’t accept it I think he needs to go.

To view it the other way, how are you allowing him to get physical connection and his intimate needs met? My love language is physical touch. My boyfriend knows and understands that I need touch and intimacy to feel desired and loved. I couldn’t imagine a life with him denying me of it. Maybe if something is going on and he’s actively seeking help for it then cool. We could renegotiate the terms of our relationship and update a few things if needed. But same as him being understanding, you have to meet him halfway. No one is wrong here tho. It’s yall against the problem. Never him vs you.

Its totally fine and should be respected that you dont want sex. But then mama let that man go then. You two goals and desires are not lining up ...unless you feel this is temporary and you're willing to explore the reasons you're uninterested. Its not fair for him to constantly express his desires to you and constantly get turned down and rejected. He deff should respect your wishes thou and be interested in exploring what has changed and if there's anything he or both of you can do to bring back that excitment.

Wow some of these responses are just so backwards 😬😳😳 and super cringey. you’re not wrong for feeling like a sex doll. Because you are being used like a sex doll since he’s not respecting your boundaries. That’s not ok. He should be more understanding and empathetic.

You’re going through a shift right now (whether it’s menopause or something else) something is happening and you need your partner to support you and comfort you and tell you that “it’s going to be ok, I’m here for you.“

Not someone who’s going to still insist on having sex and then gaslight you by accusing you of cheating or that you don’t love him because you’re telling him no. —wtf?? That’s not ok luv. And you need to know that. In case no one else tells you, his behavior is not ok.

You shouldn’t feel disgusted with yourself. It means that you felt violated. Your needs, your wants, your boundaries, were ignored and you were let down by your partner.

And that’s not fair to you.

Talk to a professional about whether you’re going through early menopause or something else; and let your partner know that the nature of your relationship is changing.

The next time he tries to manipulate you and guilt trip you into having sex by accusing you of cheating and what not, don’t fall for it. Don’t cave. Don’t give in. Just let him talk. And then go to the kitchen, grab a bowl of ice cream, head to the couch, kick your feet up and watch some Netflix.

Or have plans ready to have a fun night with the kids, go see a movie with them, go for a bike ride as a family, do anything—just don’t give into his shit.

Keep doing this for a few weeks and he’ll learn quickly that you mean business. If he truly cares about you then he’ll shape up and get with the program. If he doesn’t, then you have your answer.

Your needs should matter to him. He should have your back. And right now he’s not being considerate of your needs or your feelings. ❤️‍🩹