Alone

I'm feeling a bit isolated in my love for the outdoors. It's tough finding friends who share the same passions nearby. While my husband joins occasionally, it's clear he's not as into it & just trying to give me the company I'm seeking. I deeply appreciate his efforts, but it's not quite the same. Most days, I end up going solo, which I do enjoy, but it would be nice to connect with other women who share my enthusiasm. I guess I'm just venting and curious how others handle this sense of solitude. Just knowing I'm not alone would be helpful, honestly.

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Wish you were closer by, I’d be right there with you talking and hugging to the trees

I second the above comment! In my area, there are hiking groups on Facebook. Do you know if anything like that exists by you?

This was how I was in college (and a bit now I just don’t get to be outside much anymore with two little ones at least in the way I was before)

I used to bring a bag with me and listen to music, I loved hammocking which was not doing much but at least I was doing something, I would color or draw or journal while out in one of my hiking areas. It’s hard to not have anyone to share the joy of being in nature with but I learned to find more enjoyment in how quiet it was to be alone and actually fully experience nature.

@Maisey I'm with you on that 10000%. I have no problem entertaining myself outside all day I just wish I didn't always have to do it alone. I hope you can get to a point of being able to get out more again!

@Rachel I'm not really sure I don't use social media very well 😄😄 I wish you were closer !

@Nikelle I know some really awesome forests too! Dang-it

I actually love nature walks. I really do enjoy them

Totally feel you! I could've written this myself 💜

I absolutely feel you ❤️ ugh I wish we lived closer!! But if you ever want to show off your foraging hauls we could be texting pen pals!!

I completely understand this! I’m the same, my man comes on walks/hikes because he know I like it but he doesn’t enjoy it or live in the moment the way I do so it’s not equally shared! Sounds as if there are a few of us women who are scattered but would love to come together!

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Do you swallow when pregnant?

LOOK- before anybody act up in these comments let me explain 😂 I’m now on my second pregnancy and was having this conversation with my homegirl because I feel like swallowing while pregnant is wrong deep in my bones.. I genuinely don’t know why and I don’t judge anybody who does I just cannot allow myself to do it 💀 my homegirl said she completely gets it and she was the same way but her fiancé thinks it’s stupid. My husband says he understands & he’s not trippin about it but it got me thinking… do a lot of women feel this way? & if you do is your SO understanding about it or do they think it’s weird that you won’t do it just because you’re pregnant?

This will probably be getting deleted at some point btw 😂

Dad doesn’t want a baby

Hi mamas. I’m currently 5 weeks 2 days pregnant. The father and I have been an on‑and‑off situation for about three years. During that time he’s told me he loves me, wants to marry me, wants kids with me, and even talked about moving my two daughters (11 & 12) and me in with him because he ‘can’t see life without me.’

But the moment we found out we were pregnant last week, he immediately pushed for termination. I didn’t feel the same. I’m 33, my kids are older, and realistically this may be my last pregnancy. This would be his first. He works in a government role involving child protection, so part of me wonders if fear or his job is influencing him.
Since finding out, he’s told me: ‘I am not your person and you still have time to find your person and have a baby with them.’

I’m trying to make sense of the sudden shift. Has anyone experienced something similar or have insight?

First time mom

Does anyone else feel like leaving the house is challenging with a baby? My preemie baby is 3 months (2 months adjusted). My husband works a lot and I take care of the baby. I stay home most of the time, but I just went to the grocery store to get out of the house & get stuff. I feel like I'm learning to be a mom alone.

Friendship struggles

My friend asked “what is one thing you struggle with, when making friends?”

I said “I struggle with letting my wall down, getting close & trusting people. When you have been burned too many times, it’s hard to know who to open up to & be vulnerable with.” Also, social anxiety is a big thing that gets in the way of making friends for myself & for my kiddos.

What’s your answer? 🩷🩷

Sex during pregnancy

I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant, and me and my partner have had sex a total of maybe 3-4 times or less this whole pregnancy and it’s my fault.
I’ve always been insecure of my body but before this pregnancy I was losing weight and becoming a bit more comfortable and confident with what I looked like,
Now, I feel disgusting, I feel gross, I feel like a fat ugly hippo, I have no effort to put any work into my appearance, my hair is always left natural and thrown in a bun, I don’t try attempt to put makeup on, I have zero clothes that fit me and look acceptable on me so I tend to wear the same clothes over and over again if not just my sleepwear and tend to stay inside all day.
I also now have external hemaroids which I’m terrified of my partner seeing cause it feels gross to me, so it only really leaves missionary which isn’t my favorite, it kinda puts strain on my bump , and I hate having to see my big fat stomach which just puts me off.

Sometimes when he’s just running his hands on my thighs or something, it makes me cringe, and I feel like a terrible partner

My issue is that I feel guilty, he’s tried to initiate it a few times and I’ve shoved him off me, rudely said no, he is a man and I know he has needs and I know he can repeat that it’s okay and he understands how I feel but I know deep down it can’t be enjoyable for him getting zero action.

Anyone done couch to 5k after having 2 kids?

I have 2 kids (1 year and 4 year). I want to do couch to 5k, but wondering if anyone has done it and it’s been worth it?