Finding myself

All of my friends are my age (25)with no kids and are going on vacations and concerts and sometimes I feel resentful that I can’t do those things because I don’t have people I trust to watch my child. I just feel like being a mom and wife is my only identity and every time I try to be who I want I end up doubting myself and sticking to what I know. Any one else ever felt this way because I hate this feeling especially y because I love my daughter and my husband they are the best thing that has happened to me.

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Hi mamas!! I just want to say that you are totally not alone in feeling this way 🤎 it sounds like you may want to explore your interests and what lights you up outside of motherhood and being a wife.

I’m a married mommy of 2 and I’m not sure if your husband has a schedule where he can accommodate you doing things as just Emily the person, on your own (whether that’s an evening when your daughter is sleep or a daytime activity) but finding space for me to do my own thing has been so freeing haha

I find that it takes exercising the muscle of doing your thing to get into a rhythm where it feels natural and not bizarre as a mommy. That resentful feeling is likely your inner desire to do similar, surfacing and it can be totally possible for you to go to a concert or vacation with friends as a mom!

I just went to a Chris brown concert on Father’s Day 😝 while my husband was home with our girls and have done other trips

My husband and I try to find balance to accommodate each other’s interests while also being mom, dad, employee, husband and wife. So sometimes my husband goes to a wrestling event with his brothers or a sporting event, etc.

In my experience it can work if you put intentionality being opening up this conversation and finding a rhythm that works in your household. Good luck on this journey mama!!

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Bestie where are you?!

Hey I really need to make some friends being a mom is so lonely. Distance does not matter to me (I can’t see waves)

Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

Answer only if it applies to you.

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️