Wanting baby no.2?

For those who had fertility treatment, are you one and done or wanting more? I'd love more but the cost and thought of treatment is scary. I got pregnant with my 3rd round of IUI so not sure if I would risk it again and IVF is scary and expensive. I love having my baby so much and would love more but maybe I should just settle for one. I'd want to use the same donor we used from overseas too.....

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We had our first with IVF. It was very expensive but it all went smoothly and we were so lucky to get pregnant on our first transfer. We've been trying for a second for 2 years now and things have been very difficult this time and so far about 3 times more expensive. We really wish we could just settle and be happy with our one but this feeling that we're not complete does not go away.
It feels very unfair that the cost of actually getting pregnant has to be factored so heavily into our decision to grow our families as LGBTQ+ parents.

it is very unfair especially as our babies are so wanted!! I hope you get your second baby and wish you all the luck ❤️❤️❤️

big congratulations! That's amazing that you have 6 on ice. Wishing you all the luck and that's some good chances right there for a second ❤️

We are trying for baby no2 - starting with IUI and will move to IVF if that doesn’t work. But we have talked about not being able to keep trying forever if it doesn’t work!

wishing you lots of luck! Did you do IUI with your first?

Thank you! Yes we did IUI the first time, I got pregnant on the second attempt. Actually I have just had a positive pregnancy test after my second attempt at IUI this time… early days but feeling positive 🤞

aaaaaah congrats!! Everything crossed for you xx

Myself and my partner (birthing mum) caught on our first round of IUI - we were really lucky!

My partner gave birth to our little boy in April this year ☺️

We did initially consider egg sharing but due to the cost we decided not to.

I’m going to carry our second (starting treatment next year - using the same donor) as we both wanted to experience pregnancy/giving birth.

Myself and my wife had NHS funded treatment and got pregnant on 4th IUI. Would love to try for another baby in a year or so but we would have to pay privately. We would want to try IUI first but given that it took 4 tries last time it might get pricey if it takes a while again. Not sure we could ever afford IVF especially not on top of nursery fees for our first 😯

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Chemical pregnancy or too early ?

I did a test last night and straight away the positive line came up. When I tested again this morning it’s negative. My period isn’t due until Tuesday but feeling really crap and pregnant for the last week

Ovulation

If I had sex yesterday (Saturday) n my ovulation date is on Tuesday is it possible I could get pregnant?

Anyone had a super early postive ?

Hi am i seeing things ? It's only 6 dpo. I had a chemical pregnancy start of February then a period then a positive ovulation strip a week ago Could this be the left over after the chemical ? It just seems so early. This is an early detection test. This came up within 2 minutes of dipping and it says to wait 3 minutes. I've taken two after that arnt as early detection but still what I think are faint positives ? All appeared withing the recommended time frames xxx

Could this be like my ovulation is about to start from this ovulation test

I had my period on the 15 of march and my cycle is 23 days from the picture will be that I’m ovulating

I'm so not meant to be a mother.

My kids won't listen to me get into stuff when they know they aren't supposed to. Telling me no all the time. Only listen to their dad. Laughs when I correct them. I spend most of my time yelling at them because they don't want to listen to me at all. My husband said that I shouldn't have kids. And I am believing him on it. I was never meant to be a mother now. I won't hurt my kids I just want to disappear and make everyone else's lives better without me.

One and done… or not?

32ftm. I’m starting to feel so much pressure to have another baby soon as I wean from breastfeeding so they can be close in age and be friends, but I don’t feel ready for pregnancy and newborn trenches again 😭 my husband and I are all we’ve got. Having just one baby without a village has been really tough. Am I being unrealistic wanting another one soon?