Help and advice with stopping breastfeeding

My baby is 10 months and has his first tooth, he also now has the tendency to bite down on me when feeding, this is both very painful and uncomfortable.

He does drink from a bottle when I’m at work but will only take pumped milk and refuses formula (we’ve tried several brands) only problem is I don’t have the time to pump for each of his feeds especially as he
eats little and often when he’s teething.

Has anyone got any advice how I can start swapping out his breastfeeding for bottles, I’m thinking about keeping night feeds (as long as he doesn’t chomp me too much) for his own comfort as it often helps him settle to sleep.

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Do you actually want to quit or just biting is the issue?

Biting is very short lived and only because baby is in pain - I can give you plenty of tips to stop it if that’s the only issue.

No advice on swapping to formula though as baby is still breastfed x

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to be honest I don’t mind breastfeeding (except for his chomping) but he’s going to preschool in a couple months and I’ll be working more hours so it’s going to get harder to keep up.
I have tried everything I’ve seen online, using tethers, offering water when he bites, changing position, swapping sides but today especially he’s been biting almost every feed

so preschool isn’t an issue unless you want it to be. At his age he will be fine to take milk from you when you’re together and sustain himself on food and water when you’re apart.

What do you do/ have you done when baby bites how do you react to it? Have you tried teething gel onto the affected gums 10 mins before a feed?

Biting is almost always very short lived and only when baby is teething - they don’t realise that it hurts you just that doing it relieves their pain.

It’s impossible for baby to feed and bite simultaneously so it’s really important to watch baby like a hawk to identify the cue that they’re about to bite.. for some babies this is once they’re full up, for others it’s at the start of a feed for others more random but there will be a cue. When you see it gently unlatch baby and offer a teething toy and try to relatch 5/10 mins later x

I don't know how much it will help but you can try wearing a nipple shield to see if it makes it easier for you. If you've never used one with your baby make sure you rub some breast milk on the nipple and right before you introduce them to it express some milk into the nipple so that they get accustomed to it easier. My son never had a problem with them!

I personally haven’t tried it but a friend of mine had the same
Issue with formula and wanted to stop breast feeding. they mixed breast milk and formula starting with mostly breast milk and then slowly changed the ratio until it was 100% formula. Worked for them

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Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

Naps

How is everyone doing for naps?

Little one is 9 months old and will have 2 half hour naps and one solid 1 hour - 2 hour nap a day

Then settles for night around 9pm. Wakes for a feed around 3:30 then sleeps until 6-7

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Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
I’m 100% sure my baby refuses her bottles as she doesn’t like the taste of it!

Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂

Pumping advise

FTM to a 2 week old! I’m breastfeeding and then giving one formula bottle last in the evening before bed. I want to start expressing milk to give me some breathing room and also allow my partner to be more involved in feeding. I’m finding the idea of introducing pumping into my day quite overwhelming though. I don’t want to take milk away from my baby by pumping if he needs it during the day when being breastfeed.

Can anyone advise how I start pumping and when to do it? Thank you!