In the beginning of our relationship/marriage my husband and I sex life was great. I would orgasm majority of the time and even if I didn't it still was good. However for the past few years sex has been a chore simply because I can't feel anything! I rarely feel pleasure from penetration anymore when I used to and I rarely orgasm. My husband would be trying SO hard to get me to orgasm until eventually I just wanted him off of me and done so I started doing the ultimate sin...faking it. It's just easier that way. It seems like it started once I started taking birth control. Has this happened to anyone? How did you deal with it? I don't want to hurt my husband's feeling š but I prefer oral over penetration now
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Can you orgasm at all? Like even on your own?
@MonƩt Yes I can. I can orgasm with sex with it isn't often.

Have you talked to your ob re this? They should be able to offer some help/insight...sex is definitely different for me as well after having 3 babies and the last 2 back to back in my late 30s

Try a couples vibrator while doing penetration. It feels good to him and you. Only way I can orgasm in under 30 min lol

Most women canāt orgasm with sex alone (Iām one of them) so donāt beat yourself up Iāve faked the orgasms too girl itās just how it is but what helped me is using a vibrator during sex sometimes Iām shy to bring it out because I donāt want him to take offense but I learned men donāt give a shit as long as theyāre getting some lol

I prefer oral as well and it sucks when they canāt do that good either !