Baths

My daughter used to love baths, to the point we would struggle to get her out. For the last 2 weeks she’s hated them, she’s kicked, screamed, hit, thrown things at us, everytime we so much as mention having a bath. We’ve tried bath bombs, bath bubbles, bath toys. Nothing can convince her.

This morning I said enough is enough as she hasn’t had a bath in 3 days and it was really showing as her hair was knotted and she was dirty overall but it’s really hard. I even bathed her brothers first as I thought that might encourage her. She cries the whole time, will bang her head against the wall if I so much as go near her with a comb or washcloth, and as she’s nearly 4 she’s quite strong for her age. I’m just at a loss on what to do as this can be quite demotivating for the day ahead if I have to put up with getting kicked in the face everytime I so much as mention a bath. She also sweats more because she’s insistent on wearing winter clothes in the summer.

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How old are both your children maybe bath together or do something silly and put their swimming costume on and have a fun bath

she’s nearly 4 and both my boys are 1, we have tried bathing her with them before but she gets a bit rough sometimes (still learning to share toys) and we thought it was a little unsafe. I let her help me bath her brothers hoping it would encourage her but she’s very stubborn 😅

Would swimming goggles work? My daughter who isn’t asd hated water in her eyes and that actually worked. However she’s now terrified of spiders in the bathroom.
Would she be ok if you go in with her?

Have you been working with a behavioral therapist? They helped so much with my son. It was a lifesaver. Idk if you have a company called Center for Autism and Related disorders or CARD for short. But I was so grateful for the help they provided and gave me new ways to deal with the negative behavior.

not a behavioural therapist as much, mostly a support worker who comes every 2 weeks and helps me out with tips and tricks on what I can do. I’ll have a look at it x

hmm I’ve never thought of that, I’ll give it a go, we did have mice in the bathroom a few months ago and I’m not sure if that’s what triggered the shift as she’s got quite a good memory and will remember things months later x

My son recently has been fighting bath too. He just turned 4. Can’t explain why but it’s a massive fight. I got some new toys around his interests and that’s been helpful as he wants to play with them. Found some color tablets for coloring mixing experiments, paint/pens for writing on the tub, fun pitchers, etc. Next up would be anything magnetic bc he loves magnets. He still hates being washed but I can do that in 10 seconds and then be done.
I’ve also given him the choice of bath or shower. Quick rinse in the shower was his preference for a while

I give him choices as well. Bath or shower? My bathroom or yours? This toy?

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol