Sex and Relationships with Railey Molinario

Would this help with connection?

Yesterday I got a copper iud in and told my husband there is a string but the Dr said he may not feel it. He said 'about 15 years ago I dated a girl that had an iud and I could feel the strings'. I realized I know nothing about his past love life. I know about one girl he was going to propose to. He was looking at rings and one day he came home early and found her with another man. Then he got revenge on her months later I guess. Does knowing your partners past relationships help with connection or does it matter? I just feel like I know nothing from when he was18- till I met him at 27 years old. I don't know his body count. I don't know if he hooked up with girls. Idkbanything about him. Is it worth trying to talk to him or just leave it in the past? I'm not one that gets jealous because I got him and I've never judged him for anything before. He's just never brought it up and I've never pushed the subject.

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I think it would vary by person. I guess you learn these things as you go along but specifics about what he could feel when having sex with someone else? That might be something I don’t need to know about.

For me I only know that my partner’s exs would give him a pair of socks or 1 piece of underwear for his birthday but if he didn’t do something massive and got them something expensive they would loose it at him. And another ex called the police on him in his place that was a shared rental as he told her no he wouldn’t sponsor her (they where both on student visas) the landlord kicked him out on Christmas Day because he heard cops where called.

Thats all I really know about his past exs

I mean it didn't bother me. I know that he had a life before me. Just never knew he dated a girl with an iud. He wasn't sitting there telling me what the sex felt like or if it was better than ours or not. Just simply that he could feel the strings when they had sex.

I think its handy to know like who you're with, it's not just your partner but meant to be your best friend. He would have grown and learnt and discovered and you might learn something about him that may help you feel connected. You may not want all the details but you may want some vague ones and see how it feels to talk about it

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I'm open to anything else to start teaching him to read and write. He's 3!

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Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

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Little one is 9 months old and will have 2 half hour naps and one solid 1 hour - 2 hour nap a day

Then settles for night around 9pm. Wakes for a feed around 3:30 then sleeps until 6-7

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Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
I’m 100% sure my baby refuses her bottles as she doesn’t like the taste of it!

Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂

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Can anyone advise how I start pumping and when to do it? Thank you!

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