Help with my MIL

Guys, I really need help with this. Really considering seeing a therapist because I can see this affecting my mental health, as well as my relationship with my husband and in laws…if it hasn’t already.

Some context - my baby is 20 months old. Ever since he was a newborn, my MIL has made me feel uncomfortable. Every visit and encounter consisted of her making sure my son isn’t a “mama’s boy.” When she would see my son, she would say “no mama today” and put her hands up to block me. She would purposely hold him and take him to another room out of my sight so we wouldn’t see each other. She would make comments about how he’s so attached to me and how I should start bottle feeding and not breastfeed so that others can feed him too. She would look down upon contact napping. If we were at a restaurant, she would grab him out of his high chair and say she needs a minute with him and take him around the restaurant out of my sight. There’s so many more examples. It’s gotten to the point where every time I see her, I just feel like she doesn’t like the bond I have with my son and blames me for not having a bond with him.

It has made me resent her tbh. It makes me not want to see her. It makes me want to cry at just the thought of having to see her. So with that, we only see her once a month now compared to how we used to, which was every 1-2 weeks. She has noticed this and I can tell she is upset at me.

Plot twist. I’m pregnant. And I’m afraid she’s going to do this all over again with my second child. I don’t want to ruin my husband’s relationship with his family, but I really don’t want to see them. I don’t want her to take my kids away. I don’t want her to try and break my bond with them. I just don’t know what to do. I hate that I feel this way. The sad part is I know she’s a good person. I know it’s just the grandma in her. But I can’t help but feel this way.

I’m also a people pleaser and haven’t been able to tell her any of this. My husband has told her a couple of times but she never apologized to me. Just said that those weren’t her intentions. But I’m still very hurt and can’t let go of how she made me feel as a first time mama.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

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