Just hormones?!

So 3 things!
1. Im not sure if it’s just be being over dramatic but for starters I had this old highschool friend that we still conversate especially when I found out I was pregnant now she is 15 weeks behind me and I recently found out she is using the same name as me now I wouldn’t have been mad if it was an accident but I told her his name before hand but said I wasn’t announcing it till his birth and she had announced her sons name a couple weeks ago so now I feel like people are going to think I stole it. I wouldn’t have been that mad but me and my bf could not agree on a name for the first 7 months and this one we finally agreed on that was also not being used by anyone we knew which was so hard to find! so I was upset.

2. 2 weeks later she sends a message on snap saying “since we’re having our baby shower early everyone save September 7 as the date!” And I actually got pissed seeing as she hearted my post on Facebook of my baby shower and it is literally the same date that she sent out! I was like your dead ass!?

3. I sent my mom my nails I wanted for my baby shower it was cow themed so my nails were aswell I sent this back in July but I recently told her about it maybe 2 weeks ago when we were talking about it. She recently got her nails done and sent me a picture saying look at my new nails for the shower: it was the exact look I wanted for mine. To say the least I was very upset. And she also said her baby shower dress she just got was brown with flowers which was the exact dress I was going to wear before I decided to change it last minute and thank God I did ! More stuff has happened but this is a lot so I’ll end it here!

Moral of the story: I’m not sure if I’m over reacting or not:/

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Not drinking

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